i'm a little in two minds with how to reply to this one possums. in so many many ways i agree with the "find another FS" thought set, but being regional myself, i know how very difficult that can be - especially if you have to undertake additional travel. in your situation, if there is no other FS available, i would avail myself of the nurses and see how you "click" with them. so far, i've dealt with only two nurses - one while going through the IUI's (and any local FS appointments) and the IVF coordinator. both have been fantastic. both have been prepared to speak to me as often as i've needed. both have helped me if i'm unsure of what the FS has meant. in all honesty, without doubling my travel (and an hour each way is enough when you're talking country miles!) i don't have a choice of FS, so i've made the most of the one i have. he's not perfect - hell, last appointment he was talking about moving to a stim cycle cos he missed the page that said i had frozen embryo's! - but, in my mind, he's just the figure head to coordinate my treatment, and if i can get along ok with the nurses, then i'm set. he's only there for the nitty gritty anyway - they do the rest of the work...

with reference to the insensitve comments, i would address them with the nurse first - just let slip in conversation that you were taken aback by his attitude and what he said - at least that way it should get back to him that you weren't happy, without any nasty repercusions. personally, i would give him a go for your first cycle - you don't know whether he's always like that or whether it was honestly just a bad day... if you're unfortunate enough to have to do another cycle (hope not!!), and his attitude remains the same, then i'd shop around, but for right now, any change of FS is another delay in getting to the point where your dreams will be fulfilled.... (iykwim??)

good luck with moving into your first cycle

BG