telling work - ivf treatment

[Peta]

Hi Jules
My hubby & I have told our employers, friends & families. This has meant that we have had a lot of support along the way. Both of employers have been fabulous. I work in the private sector, my H for Govt. My employers let me cry or talk when I need to & just take a day out when it all gets too much. Both DH & I are long term employees (him 11yrs, me 8yrs) and only had a handful of days off prior to starting AC/IVF Jan 06, so if we didn't get supported we would've wondered why not. I have always been very upfront that I want a family & luckily I work for people who are family based & know that staff will want to do things other than work (eg, travel, have family, study). My employers are very happy to accomodate these things. I definitely couldn't do this without the support I get from employers, workmates, friends, family & of course, DH.
Take care & best of luck.

[Pookiegirlba]

Hey Jules,

DH and I are keeping it from our families because somehow it just makes it all seem more stressful if I have the expectations of my family to worry about, as well as everything else. Also, my parents have been DYING for grandchildren for ages and I would hate for them to get their hopes up only to have them dashed if it doesn't work.

Having said that, I am a bit sad that we have decided not to tell them, because sometimes it would be good to have my Mum's shoulder to cry on when the going gets tough. But I know it would break her heart also to see me go through all this and possibly come out the other end without a baby. So, for me, it's easier just to tough it out myself.

It's a tough decision to make eh?

Vicki