Jules - from my DH's point of view...he told his immediate boss who said - "oh cool, good luck, we did GIFT 13 years ago and had twins! Take as much time as you need." DH asked for a bit of privacy, but being a very small FIFO team, it eventually needed to be told to a few more co-workers who were becoming ratty at having to do extra cover shifts, when there was 'nothing wrong'. Telling more people eased the pressure on DH in a way - but it meant he was ALWAYS being asked how it was going... and most people don't realise that a lot of time is spent doing seemingly NOTHING AT ALL!

As for the family - we did not get the support we needed from anyone, and I have always wished we never told them. We did assisted conception for 2.5 years before we got a result, and half way through that time we told family that our TTC was no longer news and no longer up for discussion...and they would simply not be told anything anymore.

You get over the weirdness of telling some friends and colleagues and not your family. It's not a time to care too much about their feelings...it's a good time to protect yourself and be a little selfish.

I hope everything works out for you.