Hi,

My mum is great at saying daft things. She doesn't mean it and doesn't know what to say. When I got the last BFN, I can't remember exactly what she said, but I ended up saying that actually, what she said was not in the slightest bit helpful and all she really needs to say is that she's sorry and is thinking of us. My parents are in the UK, so all this was over the phone, she started getting all teary and saying how she was sorry and didn't know what to say, and how she wished she could be here to give me a hug.

I'm really glad that i told her that she what she was saying was stupid. I'm lucky that I have a great relationship with my mum and dad and I can tell them if they are being unhelpful. On another phone call I actually read some of this thread out to her. we had a good laugh at some of the stupid things that people had said, and it really helped. Now my parents know not to be so insensitive. My mum even sms'd me the other day and said "I don't want to end up on that internet chat room...." !!!

Finally, the message is through! i also can use this site as a threat - don't say anything stupid, or else I'll put your comments on the internet! LOL.