It makes me feel so much better reading that all of you have heard all the annoying and insensitive comments I've heard.

Me least favourite is also the relax comment. We only told a few people we were TTC and I wish I'd told no one. One very well meaning friend would ask me each month "any news?" When I'd say "no not yet" she'd say "You're thinking too hard about it. If you just relax and stop trying so hard it will eventually happen". My response was "Well I'm only fertle a few days a month, if I don't think about it how will I ever catch those days"

Most of my friends have kids and I love playing with them. Every time I hold someone else's baby though I always get "oh that looks so good on you, when are you getting one of your own". (we haven't told friends yet we are pg) I always want to tell them off but usually just ignore them and switch subjects. One friend who knew we were TTC defelcted a few of those questions by jokingly telling the nosy mom that I was planning on becoming an exotic dancer and therefore had to keep my figure and couldn't have kids until I'd made a good career of it.

Another of my friends who had a new baby (and had a really rough time of it), didn't know we were TTC and was trying to discourage me from having kids. She said she loved her daughter but having a baby was nothing like she expected and if I ever thought about having kids I should seriously reconsider or think long and hard about it as it was such a life chaning thing (no really?). When I said I thought we might be ready for kids soon she said "I thought you didn't want kids, do you just wants kids though just because everyone else has them (meaning a large number of our friends who just had babies)?" What am I five? She has a baby so I want one too? No I just got older and realized i really do want kids. Spending time with my friends kids may have influenced me as I got to see how fun they were but i don't want kids just to be part of "the club".