thread: TTC & losing hope!

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    mermaid Guest

    TTC & losing hope!

    Hi gorgeous women!
    DH & I have been ttc for almost 2 1/2 yrs. Last yr we underwent fertility investigations which found i had uterine fibroids. Drs said this may have been having a negative impact on ttc - so i had surgery to remove them.
    That was about 6 mnths ago.........& still no luck.
    So now we are considering what our next steps will be.



    i'm beginning to feel v frustrated & notice i'm starting to lose hope (esp as most people i know get p/g so easily) I'm also frustratted that in sth aust there is NO support-type-group where women can talk to others going through infertilty. (lucky thereare sites like this one, to offer some support)

    apols for sounding so negative, but i just need to offload!!!!!
    So i am keen to hear how others keep staying hopeful, month after month.
    Plse let me know any tips you may have - look forward to hearing them

    cheers
    mermaid
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    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
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    Hi Mermaid, sorry to hear you are having a rough time. We too have been TTC for a long time - 19 cycles, and I know how you feel.

    No need to apologise for the negativity, we have all been there (i had a similar post to yours last week!).

    Have you been back to the doctor since the fibroids were removed? Was everything all clear then? Also, has your DH been checked out yet? We just found out my DH has a low sperm count so he is seeing a specialist on Wednesday....

    I'm sorry I can't be of much help, but I just wanted to say that I know how you feel & there will be good days ahead.

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    mermaid Guest

    thanks sarah!!

    thanks for your kind words sarah!!
    And yes DH has been checked out & all is well in that department. So i guess the only thing we can do is keep trying

    best o luck with you!
    cheers
    mermaid

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    BellyBelly Life Member

    Nov 2003
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    Hi Mermaid,

    DH & I haven't been trying for that long, but I just wanted to wish you all the best. I know how disheartening it can all get. I try to just take things one cycle at a time, and it certainly does help to have understanding people that you can talk to. Good luck!

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    Mermaid,

    I'm sorry things have been really tough for you, I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be.

    Have you tried newsgroups? I know there are a few. Also there is a good Fertility Support network called ACCESS, they provide some articles on BellyBelly and offer lots more - www.access.org.au. Hope it helps!

    Good luck!
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    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

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    Hey Mermaid, I just wanted to see how things are going with you?

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    shirl Guest

    Hi Mermaid

    I hope this gets to you, I'm not really sure how to do all this yet, but I just wanted to offer you some empathy. DH and I have been TTC for almost two years now. I do already have an almost three year old little girl now but never went through all that I've been through in TTC #2. The hope that you invest in each month is almost unbearable but .. you just have to keep trying I guess. The emotions one experiences through all of this are way too heightened I think but also irrepressable. So, I think you have to just feel the way you feel whether it be happy, sad, angry, confused or ... whatever, and then carry on.

    I really wish you lots of luck!!! I'll send many prayers your way.

    Shirl.

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    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
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    I agree totally Shirl. Some days you feel great & others you just feel like it is never going to happen. I'm not going try the usual "Just be patient" line cos I know how hard it is - I am one of the ones living it too (19 cycles & still trying).

    All we can do is wait & see what happens and in the eman time try not to let it get to us

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    mermaid Guest

    hello to y'all
    just wanted to say thanks for your words of encouragement & support. DH & I have both agreed to have a little break from things before jumping on the IVF merry-go-round. We have so much other stuff happening in our life at the moment, that having IVF treatment would just be too much.....actually just the thought of IVF stresses me out!!!!!

    so we'll see what awaits us around the corner!

    Incidentally i saw someone on Denton last week who was actually taking about her struggles with having a baby (sorry i've forgotten her name, but it was Hugh Jackman's partner). I just thought "hooray" more people are actually talking about this stuff!!

    anyway sending fairy dust & sparkles to everyone......let's see how we all go this month!
    cheers
    mermaid

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    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
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    Mermaid, you know what they say "A watched pot never boils", well maybe that will apply to you. On your break you might nd up with your miracle baby without having to do IVF.

    I missed the thing on Denton (I think her name is Danielle Spencer?), but I agree that it is good that famous people are actually saying well hang on for some of us it's hard to get pregnant. Cos at the moment all you hear about are the pregnant ones (Courtney Cox & Kylie) or new mums (Kate Hudson).

    Anyways, I hope everything works out during your break & when you are ready to start the IVF process we will be with you all the way.

    *hugs*
    Sarah

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    dogzinclogz Guest

    Hi Mermaid

    I have been in your shoes.... I dont know If there is ever a good time to start IVF... I have been on IVf and it is a little daunting but it just becomes part of your every day life... its not letting it take over that is the hard bit... goodluck...
    Bye for now
    Dogzinclogz

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    Debbie Lee Guest

    Danielle Spencer is Russell Crow's wife and they have just had a baby not long ago. I wonder if he/she took a while to conceive?
    Hugh Jackman's wife's name is Deborah-Lee Ferness (sp?) - I only know this because I am "Debra Lee". I would have loved to have seen her chatting on Denton. In fact, I think I may have seen a snippet of it so that's probably the lady you saw, Mermaid.

    I wish you all the best for the next few months. I agree - it would be nice for infertility to be a subject of discussion more often.

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    belmarks Guest

    dont lose hope

    Hi, I just wanted to say, don't lose hope. You will make it eventually. My husband and I have been TTC for 3 years now and although its daunting and gruelling and emotionally taxing etc etc, it will all be worth it in the end Im sure.

    If you ever need to chat or lift your spirits, give me a yell.

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2004
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    Just wanted to say goodluck and don't give up to all the couples who are TTC. I send you lots and lots of inkdust:

    Take care,

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Nov 2003
    SE Melbourne
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    Hi Mermaid

    I totally understand what you are going through, my story is a long one, so I wont go into all here, but I have been TTC #3 for almost 4yrs, on and off, well, I took one year off, so only 3 yrs. It is an awful time and I know how hard it is emotionally and physically to keep getting your hopes up and then to have them dashed.
    I just wanted to let you know that I am here for you anytime you need to talk or even just vent!