TTC & Taking Clomid &/or Metformin ~ December 06 #2

[Willow]

BW, I honestly think in a few days you'll be feeling much better. You just need to take the time to process all of the info you've been given. I felt completely overwhelmed after my first FS visit and was also in tears for most of the afternoon. I'd gone in there hoping to have a chat with him and see what he though of our situation and came out with completed admission forms for another surgery - NOT what I was expecting.

As for whether or not your DH should have surgery - I have friends who found themselves in a similar situation. In this case it was her who was contemplating surgery (a lap for suspected endo, she also has PCOS and one blocked tube). After all the initial testing etc and finding out that they had problems on both sides (her DH had a few issues with his SA) their FS left the option to them - put yourself thru this surgery, the pain, the expense, the time off work etc etc and hope that it makes a difference. At the end of the day, it may not, considering the other problems you both have. Or, go straight to IVF, cut out all of the waiting, hoping, wishing in between and know that you'll have a great chance at success. With so many issues to work around, this is the option they chose. She's now 21 weeks pregnant. It only took her about 10 weeks to achieve this pregnancy (she did one stim cycle, BFN, then did a FET the next month and fell prg).

I guess what I am trying to say is I'd wait until all your test results are in and see where you both stand. If there are too many issues to address and work around, it may be better for you both to go straight to IVF and not worry about DH's surgery. I obviously haven't done as much research on the varicocele issue as you have, but I have read lots of women's experiences where their DH's surgery hasn't improved their chances of fertility at all. Perhaps this has been the experience of your FS and that is why he has recommended leaving it, considering that you also have some fertility issues?

On that note, I agree with Monnie. I was a bit iffy with my FS the first time I saw him. I really think you need to give this Dr at least a second chance before you come to any conclusions. I love my FS, he is just awesome, but in my opinion, how well they do their job is far more important than their bedside manner. You just want him to 'get the job done' and get you prg, not be your friend.

Anyway, I hope after all that rambling I have helped somewhat! LOL!!

Also - big congrats to Princess!! Well done. Hoping you have a very healthy and happy prg.

Emmydee, sorry AF turned up, I had a similar experience this month (longer than normal cycle) and it sucked the big ones when she finally turned up. A few days later now and I'm feeling much better.