I know it is really a specific topic but I am interested in hearing from anyone who has tried this arrangement. I plan to take around 6 months off work while slowing working back to FT, while DH takes on primary care of bub. I am worried about heaps of things - whether I will be able to leave bub (even though career is terribly important to me, both financially and personally - I really want bub - boy or girl - to know you can be a mum and a professional as well - but can you???); whether I will entirely lose my work mojo after I become a mum; whether DH will be able to handle being isolated without any support groups (I have heard mum's groups tend not to welcome blokes); whether all those rumours about men being incapable of looking after bubs the way women can are true; and so on.
I am copping alot of flak from my mum about this decision - DH is lazy, should get a job, shouldn't sponge off me - even though she was the one who raised me to believe a woman should always try to earn enough to support herself and her children without relying on a man (the fact my dad died when mum was 36 led to that neurosis!). And I am pretty sure that sooner or later I am going to get pressure from work to come back FT because I have DH at home. I fear I will be expected to "be like a man" and work the long hours because "someone else" is looking after bub.
What do you all think?