V, like MantaRay, I found it not as bad as I was expecting. I'm lucky and financially I only have to work 2 days a week. We could get by with me being at home full time, but we certainly wouldn't be as comfortable. We are also able to leave DS with MIL (if I stop being so stubborn and agonising over it, but that's another post ) so it makes sense for us to take advantage of that while we can. I don't really want to go back, but I know that once I get back in the swing of it, it'll make life a lot easier. And while you never think you'll feel that way, it actually does make you appreicate the time you have to yourself (even if you are working!) and especially the time you have with bub. It can be a nice balance. Having said that, I can't see me returning to full time work until they're both at school, I hope we never find ourselves in the financial situation where that would be necessary - I admire all those mums that do it.

WRT House work etc, you'll just sort it out, you'll both find a new rhythm....