A few people have said nanny but if I am honest I think our flat is too small and we have no garden ( and ocassinally complaining neighbors ) - I like the extra room they get at childcare and I think I would find it stressful having someone come here. When I am home with them we go out alot but I think them being here five days a week even with plenty of outings wouldn't be so good. In my mind when first investigating childcare I think I always thought there must be short day care because why else would it be called long day care if not to distinguish it :-)

I think really whatever happens with work they will stay where they are for childcare they love it and I really like center too apart from cost (apparently one of cheaper ones too!)

What a stupid thing to say about your wife especially to someone he had no idea what views they held.