depression during pregnancy or even afterwards is called perinatal depression and in reality a lot of women do get it but it is undiagnosed a lot. I had it in my first pregnancy and it led to very bad PND as it was untreated. However my second pregnancy the perinatal depression was worse and my midwife picked up on it.
The hopital I was at had a mental health team that worked in the maternity unit and they looked after me. It is safe to take meds if you need during pregnancy and they have a lot of very helpful suggestions for coping with it. It doesn't matter where the depression is coming from, home, family, DH, friends, work or baby, but it is a sign that you need a little bit more help and support at this time.
I totally understand how you feel and if you need someone to chat to, just pm me xxx
I tried to talk to my mum last night, but just couldnt find the right time, and i dont really want to burdern her, my aunt is bipola and tried to take her life just before xmas, my mum was the one to help her, so i think mum has delt with enough lately.
So this morning i just quielty said to hubby that on thursday when i see the dr at the hospital im going to ask to see the social worker cause i think im getting depressed, well his responce was not one that i expected, he started yelling at me, saying i knew this would happen, i knew it, u pushed and pushed for another baby, and i knew u would get like this etc etc, i said i wasnt depressed because of the baby, it was due to stress, and he then did what i expected and turned it around and went on about how stressed he is atm. As i recall we both choose to have this baby, we both made this baby, and there was no way to predict if i would get depressed, i wasnt depressed with my last baby.
He later said he didnt mean to sound uncaring etc, i tried to explain that it wasnt just getting kids to dance and soccer, and the kids trashing the house, its also other things like, my mum wont be here for the birth of this baby, she was there for the other 5, i said to hubby no offence to u but u suck as a support person, mum is better!
So as usual ive had tears today, my youngest drew on the wall in crayon, and ate my oldest school lunch, so she was yelling, and i felt my stress levels rise as well.
I am worried myself as my partner who've I've only known since April 2010, is taking his stresses out on me. We can't financially get it together, but that is not what is stressful. It's not communicating about our finances and having different ideas.
Also his old cars are his priority, to the point he has been mentioning we need "car accommodation" if we move in together; and then this fortnight, the transmission has gone in the automatic car, and the other car's rego has expired. I just find it frustrating because he is financially responsible to a degree, but can't quite get it together. Then when this has happened he completely loses the plot.
For myself I am lucky because I don't live with him, so I do find it easier to get my thoughts together and in a positive frame of mind and keep planning for this baby who's coming in a few months. I think if we were living together I would be seeing a counsellor, but I might think about asking about one anyway at my next appointment in a couple of weeks.
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