Hi my name is Sandie. I had a tubal ligation 9 years ago now after my last child. The reason why I had it so young at 23 was because I was with a man who was not very nice at all. This man, the father to my children never took any responsability with contraception and refused to let me take any controll, not to mention abusive and controlling. After my last child, I asked my Doctor that as I was having a C section I wanted a tubal ligation, because I felt it was the only was to stop me having child after child. Eventually I gained the strength and I left him. I am now married with a man i new from high school, and he is absolutely perfect. He too has a child to another relationship. Recently we completed our first IVF cycle, amazingly we were lucky to fall pregnant, however a week later I miscaried I was approximately 4-5 weeks. I feel IVF is to heart breaking as you put alot of hard work into trying to concieve a child, not to mention the emotional dedication each couple experiance. Now I want to look at a reversal of tubal ligation, but it costs so much, surely there must be a way where some women that fit into a catagorie or something are legible to have a reversal. For people like myself, I thought I was doing the right thing, protecting myself from being a single mother on the pension and having ten kids! Now I feel so punished for trying to do the right thing as it is costing so much. Does anyone else have a simliar story?