I know that now but unfortunately I didn't know that at the time!
Mayaness, it's great that you had good births but I did not have a great first birth. I had a very long prelabour with the first two nights rolling around alone on my concrete floor with very little sleep with a posterior baby (no, I had not discovered Spinning Baby) to be followed by hospital where a long labour ensued with an 8lbs 10oz baby. I don't care whether this baby is born via caesarean or vaginally. I just want the best outcome for my pelvis. Having to go through 18 months of post-natal pain almost cost me my relationship, resulted in me being housebound for much of that time and has now resulted in me moving to Woodend so that at least I can get used to driving and won't be housebound any more. In addition, I have spent almost $30K on getting my kitchen reconfigured to be more pelvis-friendly. That's how big an impact this has had on my life. I feel like a cripple and I'm not happy.
So, I don't trust my body. Why would I? It has let me down. If I try another vaginal birth and have a long recovery, I will feel incredibly dumb.
The Pelvic Instability Association recommends that you measure how far you can comfortably separate your legs and then advise your caregivers. At 17 weeks I can't even open my legs wide enough to put a pillow inbetween them at night without experiencing pain and after two minutes walking I need to sit down. I honestly don't see how a vaginal birth could possibly be good for my pelvis.
As I said before, this is not an exact science. Obs will tell you different things, physios will tell you different things. The only thing I care about is what my body and my mind are telling me and both are telling me not to do a vaginal birth because I've done it before and it's ended in absolute disaster.
And by the way, the two midwives that I've spoken to have told me to have a caesar.
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