thank you so much for replying onemore and for your kind words. I hope that some how you will have another baby *hugs*. DH and I have to decided to foster a child and have started the application process, they desperately need carers in our area.

They said it will be keyhole procedure and I'll get three tiny scars around my belly button (should blend in with the faded stretch marks so I'm not too worried about scars)

thanks again for your advice, much appreciated!