Tubal Reversals #13

[kiya]

Em, all i am goign to say is this. Who's baby is it anyways? "YOURS" you name her anything you want to name her. Not only that but i quite like the name Mackenzie. Yes it is different and out of the norm, but that will make her unique and individual. Thats why i named my daughter Jeanna, pronouced as gee-arna. She always gets called Jeana, but she is very quick to correct them and say "My name is Jeanna, NOT Jeana" So Em it is your decision and don;t let the comments of others sway your choice. Kiya

[mummy25]

Hi,
I have 5 children aged from 3 years to 13 years (4 are at school one at home).
I had my tubes clamped when my last was born (august 2004) and regret it.
I live in newcastle and I have found a doctor to do the op but he wants $7,600 (too much money for me ) I have read on here that some have had it done in a public hospital and waited on a list, does anyone know anything about this?
I have had so many problems since my tubes were clamped, where to start? my periods are like 10 days now sometimes more.... My vagina is soo dry and sex well I have kindof lost some Interest in it.... I also Itch like mad mostly on my legs but sometimes on my lower back i'ts like my skin is really dry and no matter how much I apply creams it seems to remain dry... I never had anything like this before my T/L and I was never DRY ANYWHERE..... I want a baby really bad but dont have $7600 in my bank and cant find any cheaper in newcastle.
my family would not loan me as they feel 5 is enough, mind you they talked into this T/L.....
I have a long term partner we are not married but he is the dad to all 5...
marriage wont change anything so we chose not to do it...
has anyone had a T/L reversal in a public hospital and if yes when and how long did it take on the waiting list and how do I go about it????
I have to get these clamps off ASAP and become normal again....

[mummy25]

Looks like It Kira !!!..

MUMOF5 Is IVF that Bad ? you said you would not do the whole process again if your eggs didnt survive the defrosting.....
Im asking as I wanted to donate some eggs for a friend while i had my IVf.
she cant use hers and has already been let down with a donor.
ivf wont do both together so to help her i have to do ivf twice....
I dont get paid but i do get to help a married couple have a baby...
All i have to do is the hard part, when the eggs are retrieved she gets them....
(kindof sucks that i cant have any of them, to save doing it twice but they said no to that one)...
what are your thoughts on this one everyone ???

[Mumof8]

Mummy25......Dnt get me wrong if i really had to do it again i would but i have gotten what i wanted out of the hole thing. Its truly not that bad honest but there is a few teary days ahead (just like being pregnant i guess).
I was meaning that if we decided to go again and our blasties didnt make it then i wouldnt be disappointed. I just didnt want to waste them if you know what i mean!
We had talked about donating our left over embryoes but i just cant do it.
To know there is a baby out there that is mine and some else is raising it GEE! I just cant seem to get my head around that. I would be forever worried that that baby would feel that something is missing in its life or it may not feel like it belongs. I have heard stories of people being adopted and they have never known but they have always felt a sence of loss or not belonging. Its not until they find out there adopted that they realize what was really missing and why they felt like they didnt belong.

I had a scan today and bub is 3p 5 oz there are some pics in my gallary

[kiya]

i tend to agree with you em....i thought about doing the same thing i happened to have any eggies left over, but decided that i too would not be able to do with a child out there that was mine & dh's and it was not apart of our family. It also falls under the same category as surrogacy. I just couldn't or wouldn't do it for the same reason i guess. We have our children for a reason and that is because they are ours and made out of love. We go through the process of having a reversal done not only because we want to feel normal again, but also because we want to bring another child into this world that was created either by IVF or naturally out of love between ourselves and our partners. cheers kiya

[Mumof8]

Kiya i do agree totally. I sometimes think im being selfish as i have nearly 6 beautiful babies and some people have none and cant have any. I could never imagine life without having my kids,well it wouldnt be a life at all. I do truly wish i could help in some way but giving a baby away is just not in my nature,im to much of a mothering person.As for being a surrogacy i do truly believe i could do that for someone. Knowing its not your egg nor your partners sperm. I would never think it was mine because its not, not wat so ever. I believe i could gladly hand the baby over just so long as it did have any of me in it(if you know what i mean).
As for people that do donate there egss and embryoes they are truly gifts from god
It takes a very strong and beautiful person to do that for someone

[mummy25]

I could not carry a baby ad give it up (even if it was not my egg)...
during pregnancy I would feel that baby grow, hear his/her heartbeat, and when born I would hear that baby cry for me (the one he/she has heard for 9months, and yearned to meet...)
Egg donation to me is like giving blood, I wont save a life but I will help create one....
No not everyone can do this and I understand fully, it does not mean you are selfish for not doing it, it means you are following your heart.....
(honestly if it was craig donating sperm I could not allow it, I guess I would not worry about the child so much but the connection he may have with it should they ever meet, maybe he might feel more connected with that child more than the one's he has raised??? - I dont know how to explain why? I can do this but not let him do it)....