Emm......sweetheart, don't for one minute think you are silly for wanting to cry....if you feel you need to cry, let it all out....remember this, you are a mum, you are a wonderful mum, and you have also felt what it is like to lose a child.....you know what your neighbour/friend is going through and you want to grieve with her.....it will also in some respects also bring some final closure to your little one, and with this you will be able to move on and also help with you deciding to have another bubba.....wish you well, and remember, it is ok to let it all out......**hugs**.....kiya