SJ i'm so sorry to hear you're going through this - it's just not fair. There's no explanation, no possible way to understand what has happened, and my heart goes out to you

i read your opening post and just wanted to say that, as much as you don't want to, i would suggest that the BT, at least, is a good idea. even if you feel that you've had a complete loss naturally, it's always best to confirm that it is over. the reduction in HCG will confirm that for you, and give you closure. also keep in mind that you can't start trying again until your levels are back to zero, and sometimes it doesn't happen straight away so your doctor may want to monitor it

i completely understand the desire to go it alone and to deal with this most personal tragedy with just yourself and your partner - it's such a private thing to experience, and it really does seem invasive to have people poke and prod you - but really, i would suggest that your doctor wouldn't ask you to have the test if they didn't deem it necessary. and from a personal perspective, i found it easier to cope when i knew for sure that it was over, as opposed to assuming it - gave me closure. while you may not believe the doctor when they've said your conception dates might be out, a six week fetus may not have a visible heartbeat - and if you've not had a prior scan that showed the heartbeat, i'm guessing they want to confirm that this isn't the case for you...

my heart really goes out to you hun - no one should have to lose an angel baby EVER.

take care

BG