Wombat I am really sorry for your loss. What a horrific thing to go through.
I also had an ectopic pregnancy back in 2009 and fell pregnant 2010 again and went on to have my daughter in 2011. My tube was removed and the remaining one was damaged from the outside (cant tell what the inside is up to) so that's great news your other tube looks good. Combined with the fact this time it didn't take too long to get pregnant fingers crossed when you feel up to trying again things happen quickly and smoothly. It wont stop the pain from this time but it does help to move forward IMO when you have another baby. Like you I had to wait 3months in which time I had a second surgery to repair my remaining tube and flush it and then it took 10months to get pregnant when we started trying which was pretty good for us as we have fertility problems prior to the ectopic anyway.