I couldn't read and not post - I am so very sorry for what you are going through and the treatment you have received. I hope you get the support you need
I honestly didnt think that this could happen, firstly the m/c and then the treatment. It was silly of me to think that i wouldnt m/c just because i had had a fairly easy pregnancy the first time with no scarring or damage to me from giving birth. And my partner i think is not overly phased by the loss. which i kind of understand, women are lucky we get to feel it all and revel in the fact that we have a life growing inside us, the biggest honour anyone could have. We get to bond immediately even knowing they may still just be a speck. but we also are extremely unlucky because of this as well if it comes to losing that honour.
Perth is already offering up the treatment i have read about, the processes under which i should be under going. Ill be sure to keep you all posted as to what happens. and thankyou all so so much again your your kind caring words.
OMG! I am so sorry for your loss, and i am so sorry for the way you have been treated. It's hard when you don't feel supported by your partner as well, or when they aren't devastated like us women are.... Massive and i hope you get treated properly in perth xxxxxx
I'm so sorry for your loss ruby-anne. I get what you are saying about a woman carrying a baby being an honour...
I really hope you can find some compassion in Perth hun. You haven't been treated at all fairly, kindly or with respect. A woman losing a baby should be shown the love, respect and compassion she deserves.
Thank you for sharing with us and I hope it helped, in some way.
I'm so sorry for your loss. FWIW, the staff I have dealt with at KEMH (I assume that's where you will be going) were really lovely, compassionate and respectful of what I had lost. I hope you receive the same treatment.
I said i would let you know the outcome once i hit perth but i decided to fly straight to melb to be with family, i am definately not pregnant anymore n my doctor believes that judging by the size of the clot that i lost that there is a big chance that i was carrying twins but we'll never really know, by the time i hit perth my bleeding stopped and everything returned to normal. I chose not to have a scan, i know it seems silly but i knew my body has done naturally what it needed to, i just wanted it over with, i had my bloods and they showed my HCG levels dropping dramatically. That was all i needed to know, and just to be sure i took 3 tests as well which were all negative.
My partner and i are doing well, but i think that comes from distance as he is still home. But i do believe we'll get there in the end. I also started my first period yesterday which is not pleasant and a reminder of what i couldnt have all over. But again.... we'll get there in the end.
Thankyou all for your kind words and support. Being able to spill and vent to people who understand has probably helped me the most during this whole situation. Also being able to try and ensure this doesnt happen to anyone else, know your rights and demand yours and your childs possible safety. I certainly have learnt from this experience and hope that nobody ever has to feel as abandonded as we did.
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