And so sometimes its easier for them to write you off because then they can forget about some of the pain- lucky them.
Actually I wonder if this isn't true a lot of the time. Call me paranoid, but I sometimes wonder if it isn't easier for others to "misunderstand" and turn on you than admit to the pain you're in and that is affecting them and that they feel so helpless. Though I truly think it's more because people just DO NOT get it. Which is why they make it about them. Until they know the pain of holding their dead child in their arms (& it's not something I would wish on anyone, however obnoxious), they cannot understand. And they'd rather just not know. So it's easier to make everything your fault instead.

As Starbright said, lucky them.