firstly so many thoughts and hugs going to both your friend and yourself
I would send a card letting her know you are there for her, and perhaps a small gift to remember her little boy, willow tree angels are beautiful...
now my circumstances are slightly different than yours, I gave birth to my tiny sleeping daughter on the 23-09-03 my sister gave birth to my nephew on the 24-09-03 I so desperatly wanted to see him to know the world was still spinning to know everything could still be normal I finally got to meet him 2 weeks later and while it was the most gutwrenching moment it is something I will alwasy remember looking into those blue eyes knowing he was here, and my Katy wasn't but I never went thru the why's etc.... I just looked at him and willed him to be healthy to stay strong to help me live my life for my Katy...
anyway what I am trying to say the day will come when your friend is strong enough to meet you little one, my best advice and this is because this si what my sister did to me, is when she is ready let her hold him and then walk away let her smell him let her revel in the feel of a newborn it will make her stronger...
I also would send her a card and maybe even a tiny little gift. I was given a tiny crystal dummy (mine had a pink ribbon on it but I know you can get somes with little blue ribbons) which I think is just gorgeous (not expensive this one as I brought one later for my friend) and a lovely keep sake which isn't in your face either. I'd stay away personally for the time been with your baby as it could rub salt into her wounds that you have your son earthside and she doesn't. In time she will probably love seeing your son as it will remind her of what her son would be like and what he would be getting up to.
My friends mother lost her son at a few days old and now 25years later she still loves looking at a lady from her churches son (whom was born a few days apart) as she said it reminds her of her son and what he would be like (size, age, milestones etc)
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks