How do you announce a singleton pregnancy when it was a twin pregnancy....

[Tegam]

Assuming that all goes well with our scan, BT's and OB appointment over the next week, we are hoping to announce our pregnancy to our family and friends, so we can have more support and I am finding it difficult to hide...

How do you announce to family and friends that you are pregnant, but have also suffered a loss of a twin... I want them to understand that it has been an extremely difficult few weeks, we haven't yet been able to really grieve as we won't feel that Flicker is safe until born into our arms... so we may not be bouncing around, filled with excitement and experiencing a carefree pregnancy. We have a long way to go before we are "safer" as such.

Close people will be on the phone or face to face, but I will put it up on the blog and put up what we have been through for the past few weeks... and probably something on FB at some stage...

TIA, I have been dwelling on this a bit lately as we want people to understand that Flicker had a twin Firefly, but the wee little angel wasn't strong enough to make it....

Gee i think what you have said does justice to Flicker, Firefly, your DH and you. Just be honest. Those worth the effort will understand, those that dont wont so dont waste your time on them! \

Good luck honey and i hope that you can relax into your pregnancy soon!

[beckoes]

i think you put it beautifull without even realising, and SB also put it in to words beautifull too! i think it will be a hard thing for some to get their heads arounda nd maybe some people wont know if they should be congratualtion you on you pregnancy or being sorry for your loss. I think when you tell people you almost have to tell them that its ok to be happy but you want people to acknowledge your little firefly. just sending some more hugs to you. xxx

[YoYo]

I think maybe say it is a pregnancy, but a Bitter Sweet one.....

It must be a very hard thing to tell people, and I hope you get all the support you need xx

[Tegam]

Hey beema, how are you?

[*Beema*]

Thankyou so much Teagam, Beckoes and Minimax

We told DH's family Saturday night, and it was so much harder than I ever imagined it would be.... I broke down completely, DH had to tell them.....

I thought that I was coping better with it all as I can write about it, and talk about the topic of MC (as I did with one of the girls from work on Thursday), and I was completely fine.

But when I came to saying out loud what happened to me it was a completely different story, the raw emotions just escaped and I was not at all prepared for how drained it would make me feel for the night and whole next day.

I eventually rang my parents late on Sunday night and told them and managed to hold it together a bit better, I am the first in our family on both side to have experienced a MC, and what makes it confusing is that at the same time we are trying to celebrate that we have a bubba on the way.

My mum said it prefectly, she didn't know if she should be happy or sad, she just didn't know what to say, and for me just being there was what I needed.

I have spoken to the couple of people in our office and my boss, but noone else IRL yet. It was easier as it was jsut the boss on Monday as no one else was in the office, so we had a really long chat about it, his wife has a MC @ 12 weeks so I knew he would understand.

I need to email our friends who are OS and some other close friends who I want to know more personally before posting on FB or my Blog. Something I do need to do soon. But just not rushing into it, when I feel ready.

Thankyou for asking , I am hoping to have gone public by the weekend, so we can keep going forward...

[Tegam]

Oh Honey i thought that this might be hard for you. Take your time, people wont understand why you havent said something sooner but thats their problem. I didnt tell anyone i was pregnant with my Evie until after 17weeks, some not til after 20wks, so what it was my news to tell!

Thinking of you and both your bubbas!

[thepixie]

Thinking of you hon