NaeNae and Blessed, both of your posts are exactly what I was getting at earlier, in a way - m/c and reactions to it are so intensely personal. My reaction to mine would have been so different had it been my first child, of that I am certain. And it is amazing how a m/c can affect future pregnancies - I didn't "allow" myself to love Rose in utero until 21 weeks, yet with both my boths I spoke of them as my babies (and wrote to them both in diaries) from the moment of conception.