Kim, I agree with Sezjm, it must be hearbreaking for you to have gone through this so many times. I's sure Arden will have a little brother or sister soon. The forum has been a big help for me, I've been really struggling yesterday and today, sharing experiences and getting answers to questions helps with the healing.
Sezjm, I understand you being paranoid, after something like this, it would be hard to not be parinoid. I need to be at hospital at 8.00am, they do D&C 1.30pm. I am feeling exactly how you were, there are no words to describe the feeling. I pleaded for the hospital to do it on Friday, so upset I couldn't have it done, I haven't been able to sleep. I had a feeling that something wasn't right with this pregnancy. A week earlier, I had even commented to my dp that I didn't think I was pregnant anymore, all of my symptoms just stopped, on Thursday I was driving into work, I ended up going to doctors instead. I requested an ultrasound. During the u/s, I was hoping all was OK but as soon as she said the date, I knew. My heart dropped. I imagine it would have been worse for you as you were not prepared. I, too, will try as soon as I can. The hospital said I could try as soon as I have one AF after curette. So, I guess your ob's is saying wait until you have two af's after curette. Like Kim says, see how you feel yourself.