I am so sorry for the losses many of you have suffered.
When Ellen died at 41 weeks I had already expressed a bit of milk in case she needed it in an emergency situation (I have high allergy levels to a lot of meds)
It was a sad day when I told mum to throw away that frozen milk a week or so after the funeral.
I asked about donating milk and was more or less laughed at by the midwives. I thought it might have been one positive thing to come from Ellen's passing.
I had very little advice about what to do to stop my milk and I was told the meds didn't help but only held off the time you had to dry up.
I had no midwife support after my baby died and I was in terrible pain from my breasts. I didn't want to complain because I didn't want anyone to worry more about things.
When my breasts get full now as I'm feeding my son it brings back scary memories.
I wish there was better systems for helping women who have stillborn babies.
Ellen was my first baby and I just didn;t know anything