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Nicambhar - gawd some doctors have no idea do they!!! I would have been angry too! So what can you take to increase your Vitamin D, isn't sunlight a good source of Vitamin D. AS for the vitex, a doctor wouldn't have a clue, I would see a naturapath. I have taken Vitex now for both of my pregnancies and conceived first cycle for both.
Nicambhar - oh pooh to your doctor, I don't see that it's any ones else's business how many children you want! At least I have been lucky on that front - my ob has been excellent through this - I think he was really horrified when he did the us and found no heartbeat :( He has never suggested that we should think about giving up. I must admit its been getting up my nose a bit this week when people say oh you have one child you should be happy about that. Don't get me wrong I do know that, but I feel like saying thanks a lot (not!!), I'll decide how many kids are enough for me for myself! I've just had so many dumb things said to me this week - mostly by family - they really just don't understand because they haven't had it happen to them.
Thats great that your bloods are normal - I've got to wait 3 and a bit weeks to ask my ob what more I can have done in the way of blood tests and other investigations. Can't help much on the TTC front either, sorry - I have to wait it out for this cycle and start again next. I tried Vitex for a couple of cycles and found that I O'ed early using it, so maybe that's whats happening to you too? I stopped taking it the month before I started on Clomid. I'm using Clomid to lengthen my short cycle, especially my LP, which is only 10 days. At least I have hope that we have already conceived using it, so no reason it shouldn't happen again. Obviously my main worry in another pregnancy will be miscarrying :(
Sheree - I'm so sorry for your losses :( I too would have been your belly buddy I think, but I was too scared I would miscarry and was waiting to introduce myself in the Belly Buddy thread until after 12 weeks. How prophetic was that :( It is hard seeing other pregnant women isn't it? I just look at them now and cry to myself - it is just not fair! Why did this have to happen to me? At least I do have my DD as a comfort - she has been cuddling me and saying "Mummy's sad". I'm just trying to hang on to the thought that there must have been something wrong too - I just refuse to believe that this can possibly happen to me again!
Maz - thank you so much for your lovely post...
I agree with Susannah that Vitex must have made me ovulate early too, maybe it wasn't cd16 as I usually am. The reason why i know is because I left on cd11 to go away without Wade and we dtd that morning only. So it all kinda makes sense now Susannah said that.
Susannah - Ok the plan is we be belly buddies again ok! I am also sick of the comments atleast you have Lachlan blah blah blah, atleast you can fall pregnant blah blah blah - it will happen blah blah blah. I find all these comments so disrespectful to my feeling and obviously people that have no idea including my family! I wish they would say nothing at all!!!!!! I def agree there was something wrong with our angels, but it's still not fair hey? And I hear ya on wondering why it happened to us, these things don't happen to people like you and I. Don't know if I am making sense.
Hope everyone is having an ok day.
megsmum - yes it has been the same for me this week - people saying the stupidest things I have ever heard. Even my own mum has let me down, she said "oooha, I didn't think you were trying anymore. Oh well, it weren't meant to be", if I hear that one more time I reckon I will choke the person. Gotta love the comment from the Dr about giving up though, when he has pictures of all 5 of his kids on the wall.
Sheree - The doctor told me to get on Elevit and also Ostelin 1000. I know that he can't really do much for me, but man was I pi$$ed, I just want answers, and I just want to be rid of the fear of falling pg. I just think I am a little bit grumpy today. I have had a bit of a sleep this afternoon.
I really appreciate you ladies being here, I think that DP has had enough mc, pg and TTC talk for this lifetime...:cry:
What is ostelin.
I am on Elevit too, I swear by Elevit. Some people feel sick from it, but i haven't had a problem.
Just googled it Sheree and it is a Vitamin D..
Aggh right gotchya
ok i want to be a belly buddy with you too as well!!!
had OB and told us nothing!
got a slip to have some b/tests to see if i am at a increased risk of m/c, but thats it
no chromosonal tests were back. $90 later!!
i am so low atm.
i don't know if we will ever get there again!
sorry just feel sad today!
odette
Big hugs and kisses Odette. Thinking of you. Of course you can be a belly buddy with us.
Well, its now 10 weeks and 1 day since d & C and still waiting for AF. I feel like it's never going to happen and this will decrease my chances of getting pregnant. Sorry, this a me post today.
Mumstar - it took me 12 weeks to get my AF back after my D and C back in 2005. I thought it would never ever come, but apparently som women's bodies just take a little longer thatn usual. Have you thought about taking Vitex to tune everything up and hopefully spur on AF? Don't worry hun, i am sure things will work out soon, but i know how frustrating it is as well. Big hugs.
thanks littlescottishboy, I started taking vitex about 2-3 weeks ago, so here's hoping. It is frustrating. I do understand that it can take a while, but I fell like I am missing out on this time to really try and get pregnant. Just have to be patient - easier said than done!
hey mumstar,
why don't you go to the local GP and get them to check your hormone levels. Maybe they can tell you a bit what is going on- whether you have o'ed or not ect.
Hi girls.. Hope you are all doing well.. I am still lurking around the threads. Am just laying low for a while but getting better with each day now. I am just waiting for O, the Vitex hasn't really brought my O date forward either. I don't expect to get pg the very cycle after my mc so don't feel any pressure on myself atm which is nice for a change.
Mumstar - wow, that is a very long time you poor soul.. I tend to agree with Odette, go and get a BT to see if there is anything going on. Best of luck..
Take care all.. xx
oHH Mumstar - gosh I feel for you, I would be annoyed and confused too! Hopefully the vitex helps soon!
Nicambar - glad you are feeling less pressure, I am feeling like I am more anxious to fall pregnant after a m/c, that clock is just ticking away..........
Hope everyone is well, I am in a bad place right now, I hate feeling this way!
Thanks sheerjoy, odette, nicambhar - I did have a blood test done about 2 weeks ago-it came out negative. The GP told me that he wouldn't do anything until I am at least 16 weeks (4 months) post d & c. Then if I still haven't had a period by then, I will have to be sent for scan to check for retained products. But at my 6 week check up with my OB's he did a scan and said completely clear and uterus looks small (which is all good). I am just really anxious/frustrated that I can't have a period or can't get pregnant at the moment. Sorry for the rant.
Mumstar - 16weeks, OMG, that is absurd.. No wonder you are feeling anxious about TTC. Don't be sorry about ranting, we are here to support each other.. I really hope the Vitex works soon for you.
Sheree - I see that you are a year older than me, my DP will be 40 next December and he doesn't want to become a new dad any time after that.. I understand where he is coming from and there isn't anything that I can do about it so I think that I am at the point of what happens is it for us.. I think I am feeling less pressure atm because we have sold our house and are going to build another one, so have just so much more on my mind than TTC... I hope that you are feeling better than yesterday.. xx
Mumstar - you are right none of that makes sense, and understand your anxiousness, I would hate to be waiting in limbo when I could be doing my best to the ttc. Big hugs to you.
Nicambar - Yeah a year older huh. Sometimes I wonder if my body clock is ticking alot lately, you have to wonder sometimes if all these problems would have happened if I was under 30. That is a shame about your hubby, hopefully it will happen for you guys, tell him my uncle (55) has become a dad for the 2nd time to his new wife who is 7 days older then me. So if he can do it, so can your dh. But in saying that my uncle will be 75 when his daughter is 20 OMG!
Hi Sheree, Odette and Nicambhar,
How are you all? Sorry I have been a bit quiet lately - just needed a bit of time to myself and to spend with my DD. But I am feeling a bit better now, although I am still getting the occasional thoughtless remark that bites hard :wall: Anyway, I'm just waiting now for AF so we can get the TTC show back on the road. I'd love to be belly buddies with you all!
Big hugs to you Mumstar, how frustrating waiting that long for AF. You poor thing :( Have you thought about going back to your ob or calling him/her up to ask what they think? I find it hard to believe that there is nothing they can do for you until 16 weeks have passed. Do you know if you have Oed yet at all? I'm charting again now in the hopes that I can get a rough idea of when I O so I know when to expect AF back. I haven't Oed yet, but I'm really hoping it will be soon although I have no signs of it yet.
Nicambhar - that's good you are feeling less pressure, sometimes I think it a good thing to have something to focus on rather than just TTC KWIM? Good luck with the house building too - we built ours about 6 years ago and it was an adventure to say the least!
Sheree - I know exacty how you feel about the clock ticking - I am 37 and my DH is 41 and he may be out of a job next year too :( Oh well we've decided we can't put our lives on hold while we find out if he has a job or not. But I am wondering now if we had had our DD when we were younger then we wouldn't be so old and TTC again now, maybe I wouldn't have had this m/c if I was younger - I'm pretty good at driving myself nuts with questions since the m/c. I have to keep telling myself that I can't change all these things now, and that there is every chance that this m/c was just due to bad luck and that there is more than likely no reason for it to happen again. Why would I have a lovely DD if there is a reason that I can't have another one? Anyway, sorry - rambling on a bit now.
Megstar - When I saw my ob's at 6 week check - he said I should have probably had AF but it said he wasn't concerned. He said that I will just have to wait for it to happen. I have decieded that I will call him next week. I did OP test a few weeks ago and it came out positive for 5 days straight. So don't know if that had to do with the vitex.
Thanks Nicambar, sheer - I am sorry to rant considering that you both had losses just recently. Sorry to be a bit selfish with my problems. I hope you both are okay.
Hi all
still getting there slowly- you girls know what I mean
Ok Mumstar we are usually having a campaign to keep AF away- now we have a campaign to bring it visiting your door-lolol
I was 4 weeks on Tuesday so waiting for my AF to come as well. HAve had that dragging feeling in my stomach now for nearly a week so been on NC (nicker checking) duty since then.
I had spotting returning around 16 days Post op for 5 day- so think this was just after i o'ed.
and now this dragging feeling is driving me nuts!
Keeps on getting my hopes up that the spotting was implanting that is why its late- but after nearly 8 years of not being able to conceive naturally- i know that i am just setting myself up for disapointment. DH has said we can go back and do a FET with my last embie today - so now waiting to see what the next few days pan out.
i know that you mean about those thoughtless remarks megsmum - had a few of them this week and boy they still throw you for six hey- especially in social situations!
Thats it for me- getting stronger emotionally- not fogetting what has happened, but accepting this path in my life a bit better now
hang in there girls- together we will get there
odette
I like that Odette, together we will get there! Hope you are pregnant naturally girly, wouldn't that be a lovely surprise. You so deserve it after all you have been through.
Mumstar - gosh please don't feel like you are taking over just because our losses are so fresh. You vent away, gosh I would hate that my af hadn't come back yet too! Hope you get to the bottom of it soon honey.
Megsmum - hi welcome back. Understandable you just want to chill out and spend time with your daughter, I too feel that way alot these days and yet I still find myself on here.....
Well everyone I went a Womens Wellness Clinic here the other day and had a papsmear. I have HPV and had to have another one 6 mths after my colposcopy to see if I still have low grade abnormalities. I have had then since Lachlan was born,appears I have had HPV for years but since having a baby my body wasn't making it so dormant anymore. So I am at high risk of cervical cancer now, but she ensured me that I have time and as long as I am monitored all is good. For it to go from low to high grade and can take a few years, so that gave me some reassurance. And she gave me reassurance that it wouldn't have caused my m/c. Feeling alot more confident about it all now. Only if this one comes back as abnormal again I have to have another colposcopy again and if I am pregnant then they will just wait until I have had bubs.
She also told me that the egg that split into two just recently there is no explanation for it, just a freak of nature! That is interesting hey. Twin pregnancies are high risk, but an egg that splits is even higher risk. Yes they are identical, but this type of scenario is where you can get siamese twins etc.... So no wonder the eggs had nothing in it, probably best off that my body knows when it aint on a good thing. Appears this scenario with nothing in the sacs is called a blighted ovum, I have heard that before but the gyno didn't say that to me.
girls,
don't any of you feel guilt that you are 'taking over' - we are all here for each other - some days are bad and some are good- when you are having a bad day - vent away- as no doubt some of wil be having a good one and strong enough to prop us up!!!
If we don't talk- then we don't acknowledge!!!!!
Talk away and get it all out!!!!!!!
btw got a headache- sure sign AF has to be coming soon!!!!! Hurry up
got to get the FET in this year as reached the safety net - so get 80% back-lolo
I hate waiting!!!!
how have you not pulled all your hair out in frustration waiting for AF mumstar????
take care
odette
LMAO - yeah Odette, I reckon I am almost bald!!! Thanks again everyone, odette/sheerjoy - it's true it is good to talk about things, we are have our good/bad days. Good talking to you guys.
Sheree - Wowser, 55 and a new daddy.. I think his fear is being classed as a golden oldie at the kid's 21st..LOL....Ooh, how did you find the women's wellness clinic? There is one here is Brissie that I have often thought of going to because I think that my dr is a bit of a fuddy duddy and doesn't listen to me..
Megsmum - no need to apologise for your absence... with this house building, I think the adventure is going to be finding a place to rent, phew, it's a PITA...
mumstar - The +ve OPK's 5 days straight probably do have something to do with the Vitex, it raises the LH in our system..
Odette - ROTFL about your NC, that's a classic.. I know what you mean though, I can get a bit obsessive about it..
As for me,, not sure what is happening. Think the hormones after the mc are still raging.. I do have quite a bit of O pain this evening and heaps of EWCM, so hopefully my temp will shoot up tomorrow so I don't have to bd any more - sad to say, it's getting a bit on the boring side. I really never thought that I would say that about sex. Take care girls, hope you are all well. xx
Nicambar - its true about BD'ing, especially every 2nd day it becomes a bit of a chore. LOL.
As for me, thursday I felt like I had PMT all day, then friday morning about 4am woke up in pain. But still no AF. Had this pain even when I tried to sit on my work chair and thorought day. Anyway, I had to take panadol every 4 hrs to help with the pain. But still no AF yesterday or today. The pain has eased. Please just hurry up and show!!!
ok girls got AF yesterday- so back in the game!! Rang IVF clinic and going to do a FET this time around with our solo frostie bub!!! This time its gonna work!!! I said all along to my DH that we would use the last frostie and here we are!!!
first scan on the 30th so bring it on!!!
mumstar i had AF pains for a week before i got mine- so annoying- so it must be on the way
odette
So sorry Odette that AF came. But u have a great new plan in place! Fingers crossed for a sticky frosty! (ha ha - sounds funny but u know what i mean!).
Mumstar- hope the pains stop soon. Ouch, poor thing.
Nicambhar - i know what u mean about BD getting boring - i get a bit over it too towards the end of the 'marathon' around O time!
Megsmum - yeah, i hate it when people make thoughtless commetns too - they really seem to hit the hardest and on days like that i just wish i never got outta bed!
Shereejoy - it sounds like u r in the right hands at the Weelness Clininc hun. Sorry to hear about the HPV. At least they can treat it and you have plenty of time to get it all fixed up and solved.
treelo - hi matey, how r u?
Hi to everyone else.
I'm so over this 2WW thing; in fact, so over TCC in general. I wish i could turn my brain off for a while and not have to think about it! Have a good weekend everyone.
Hi girls,
Thought i should pop in here because i really don't know where i belong at the moment. I've just had my 3rd m/c on Monday. I wasn't all that surprised but it really has shaken me up a bit. I've decided that i don't want to TTC again for a while, DH said he understands, thankfully. We're planning on moving back to QLD early next year, so i think maybe after the move i will feel right to TTC again. I was thinking about getting some testing done seeing as i've had 3 m/c's now. My GP agrees, so i have another appointment with her next Wednesday and see where we go from there.
Sorry for your loss Teagan, when the time is right for you.
Hi everyone,
Just an update for me, stil no AF. It is 11 weeks and 3 days. I rang and spoke to my ob's receptionist. She spoke to him (ob's) and said I should come in and just have a check to see if all okay. So I have an appt next tuesday (it will be 12 weeks then). I will let you know what happens.
OMG I am pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Way to go Shereejoy!!!!! Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sheree - :happyforyou::confetti::confetti::hug: I am so happy for you!
Hi girls, how is every one travelling...
Sheree, I am overjoyed to hear that you are pg. When I saw your name in a the belly buddies thread and read it, I had to read it again. You made my s****y day yesterday turn to sunshine.. Have a wonderful pg, I hope it all goes smoothly for you.. xx
Mumstar - That is such a long time for af to be absent.. Geez you would be stoked to be in that situation if you weren't TTC.. I hope it all gets sorted very soon..
Tegan - Oooh, I am in Brissie - great place to live.. Sorry about the mc's darl.. I am in the same boat. Lost bubba at 15 weeks last year, had a chemical pg or mc 3 cycles ago and lost my bubba again last month. I feel very disappointed in my body for letting me down and making me go through this hell. After my first loss, in August 06 it took me until Feb 07 to comtemplate it all again.. Take care and most of all, take your time.. xx
Littlescottishboy - BD is getting a chore, I feel that it is up there with cleaning the toilet and taking out the wheelie bin in the rain... Hope I can get pg and not have to worry about timing sex so I can possibly regain a meaningfull intimate relationship with my DP again..
Odette - that is great news.. best of luck, I am praying that it works for you hun..
As for me, I am a little nervous... My temp dipped yesterday at 7DPO and really shot up today.. Maybe the hormones after the mc are making my body trick me... uggghh, time will tell. Take care all, I hope we can all share in some good news very soon. xx
HI everyone,
Just a quick post from me today....DD is awake now and won't let me spend too much time on the puter :rolleyes:
I just wanted to say a big congrats to Sheree!!
Mumstar - stupid AF!!! I hope your appt goes well.
Good luck for this month Nic and Odette!
Tegan - hope you are doing OK now?
Still waiting for AF here too :rolleyes: I think that O is just about upon me though (I hope!!) so it shouldn't be too much longer to wait now. My ob wanted us to wait one cycle before we try again, so I guess we probably will - although you never know what might happen ;) I've got my appt to see him for post D&C checkup next Wednesday, so hopefully we will be able to come up with a plan for starting Clomid and TTC again really soon - I hate this waiting around!
I'm travelling along ok i guess. I had to quit my new job because it just got all too much for me. All i can think about is being pregnant now. I'm not sure if we should wait or not. I just can't get it out of my head, i just want another baby... :(
Hi,
just an update from me. Saw my obs's today as it is now 12 weeks from d & c and still no period. He said that the u/s was all clear, but when checked internally, the cervix had a thin layer covering the opening. Therefore blocking any blood coming through. He peirced through this and found old blood. Hopefully now everything will go back to normal. He said if I still don't get a period than he will have to check/look at my tubes. Heres hoping all back and get preg soon.
Hi ladies, thought I'd check out this thread. I'm sort of at loose ends. I'm recovered from my last mis (ie bleeding stopped), but it's too early for us to TTC. Now there's an idea for a new thread. I feel like I'm in limbo. We're definitely going to try again. I recognized some of the names here from the emotional support section. Fertility is really a journey, isn't it??? Or maybe more of a roller coaster (depending on how philosophical I feel at the time). Anyhow, good luck to everybody here.
I know this thread has been empty for awhile but I wanted to post my story. I had a late term miscarriage on Nov 14. I hate that term since I went through labor and elivered my son (19wks 2dys). We had no idea anything was wrong. No cramps, no bleeding. We went in for a routine scan and were excited to find out the baby's sex. We had no idea we would hear, "I am sorry but at this time we can not find a heartbeat." My whole pregnancy was filled with struggles. Four days after we found out we were pregs I started spotting and was put on bed rest. A week later they did a scan to check for viability and it came back no heartbeat. A week later there was a heartbeat and all was good. At 13 weeks we found out we had an elevated risk for Down's syndrome. We were okay with that because DH and I really wanted a baby. I am sitting hear now knowing I should be 23 weeks pregnant and I feel so empty. SO far all the tests came back and no answers. No one tells you that you can lose a baby so late. I thought once we made it out of the 1st trimester we were safe. Sorry about the rant but I am trying to make sense of everything.