Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #3

Deedles - so sorry to see you in here, I just had a D&C on Wednesday at 8+6 so I feel your pain, I can't imagine finding out so far down the track however, my heart goes out to you. All you can do is acknowledge the emotions, take the horrible ride and you will find some peace when you reach the other side, how long that takes is individual and sometimes you think you are getting better and then bam something reminds you and you're right back where you started. This thread is amazing for support so continue to pop in and vent away, we all totally understand how you are feeling so can at least try and help you get through it any way we can. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could all get together and have a real hug instead of an emoticon one xx

Freya - I'm sorry you have to have friend-dramas while all of this has been going on, it's the last thing you need. Hopefully the disconnected feeling will fade for you, for me I am feeling kinda lonely, which is crazy when there are small boys everywhere. It's early days hunny, give yourself time to recover.

Alison - Oh hun, we got our bfps a day apart, were due a day apart, lost our bubs a day apart, both at 8w6. Gosh, my heart breaks for us. I am doing ok, my bleeding is really really light now and I've not had any pain (I don't get cramps or anything like that, never have.) I did this silly thing the other day, I thought, I know some people ovulate really soon after a mc maybe I should keep an eye on that, so I did an opk - and of course :duh: it was crazy-dark, cos it was picking up on the hcg, which I guess will take a while to fall. I kinda just want to get on with it and try again (even though it will take a bit to get my head around), but maybe having to wait while my body gets itself sorted is for the best. I hope your little girl gets better soon - we've all been sick here too. Me included. Really, it was the worst week ever, I had 2 sick boys while having a mc, then got sick myself.

Deedles - so sorry you have to join us here. I am so sad for you at the thought of seeing your little bub on the screen - I was meant to go for my first visit with my Ob on Monday, but I cancelled cos my bleeding was getting heavier, and I just could. not. bear. to go and see my baby on the screen not moving. I'm so sorry.

Ashie - sorry you're in here too. My first mc (between my boys) was at 5w3days too. I had high hcg with this last preg, which just sucks in a way cos what can you count on? I guess nothing is a guarantee, the quote I like is that "pregnancy is not a promise, it's a hope." Which of course hurts like hell when that hope comes crashing down. I'm a neg blood group too, I had my anti-d when I was just spotting and everyone was still very hopeful and "goodluck with the pregnancy, it can be very common" etc, but I think I already knew that it was a worse-case scenario. I can't believe people have made that girls comment to you - really, what are people thinking??? I've now had 4 mc (a couple were chemical) and have 2 children. But if I get my 3rd bubba in the end everything will be worth it.

Hi Miss.B, how are you going hun?

I had my scan on Saturday to check if the mc was complete. No sign of anything any more, but she did say that my endometrium is still very thick, so I will have more bleeding to come? Strange because my bleeding is very light now and has tapered off a lot? Maybe it will start back up again in a while? I had this lovely lovely sonographer, although at the end she got me teary cos she said she wanted to see me back in again for another scan of a little bub next time. I so want that too!

Hugs everyone xx

Hi girls just just got my results after my mc Friday I got bloods done sat arvo and seems my hcg level was 2340! He said that was alot higher than expected. Specially since my period was due only a couple of days before the mc. Their is alot of blood in my uterus so seems I'll be bleeding for a while to come. Getting my thyroid levels tested jic too. My morning sickness will take a while to pass which is such a blow not enjoying it with not having our lil button. Just sad all over again as I said last mc my hcg was 14 so it was to be expected, but good numbers for someone who just missed af? Worst part waiting to be seen and many pg women sitting near me just kept busy on my phone trying to keep from loosing it. Honestly scared when we are ready to get pg again, I hate this empty feeling that's left.

Hi Ashie - wow they are high numbers, multiples or eptopic maybe? Sorry you are still suffering ms, the last time I checked my numbers was 2 weeks before the D&C and they were up in the 20,000's - but luckily my ms eased off straight after the D&C, relief I must say. Like you said you can barely handle it when it's for a reason but when it's not it's positively awful to deal with, mentally and physically. Isn't it ironic that whenever this happens you feel like everywhere you look there's women with pregnant bellies ho hum. We'll get there, it will be a hard road but we will get there. xx

Hi Smamfa - I'm glad your scan showed nothing....that sounds wrong but you know what I mean. I thought having a nice thick endometrium was a good sign? Maybe you will get AF sooner than you think. I got mine 3 weeks after my last D&C so will be interested to see what happens this time, my cycles are short hence my luteal phase defect so it's good to know my body is going back to what IT considers normal. Doesn't matter though as we won't be attempting any pregnancies now until we see the new clinic in July. My bleeding has tapered off a lot too so hoping it's nearing it's end, it's just a constant reminder isn't it. So what's your plan of action for the future? xx

Hope everyone else is well xx

I had an u/s all clear, I passed what I am certain was a sac Friday night (sorry for the tmi ladies!!!!) it was larger but also stretched out. I told doc in detail abd he said defently I was correct but no one can tell me why it looked so different to last time. I was literally the same amount of weeks and days as last time. It really sucks being told not much you can do with symptoms but to ride it out. And never got to indulge in my cheese toastie craving!!!

Ashie - glad your us was all-clear. I hope your symptoms ease soon and give you a break.

Alison - hey babe, I don't know, I have very sporadic bleeding atm - virtually nothing, then a few globs, then back to nothing? I guess this could go on for a while... Will it be hard to not attempt preg for you till July? I guess July is not very far away! My plan of action - is just keep going. We are not doing ivf, we established that before we even started trying. After all of that nothing nothing nothing I have been quite fertile recently - utd 3 times in the last 4 cycles, so I really really hope that continues and I can get pregnant again soon - although it may well do my head in. So does ivf increase your chances of getting a good eggie? (I don't know much about it sorry)? Or will you do something like pgd testing (or whatever it is called?) I wish you so much luck with all of it xx

It's quiet in here, hope you are all doing well.

I am still bleeding... it's very off and on. I think it might be stopping and then it starts again. It is not really like normal af bleeding - it's like it is slower if that makes sense, and I get a mix of colours, sometimes pink, or red, or brown, or all of them all mixed in at once, often very mucousy looking? I wish it would finish up... it has been 2.5 weeks now that I have been bleeding (just over 2 since the actual mc.) Has anyone else been like this in the past? I think my other one (at 5w3) was just like a longer heavier af and wouldn't have gone much past a week and a bit. This is different and I must say I am getting over it!

Smamfa - With my first D&C I bled for 8 days and then spotted on and off for the rest of that cycle. That cycle was 38 days. It was so annoying. I was passing clots in the first 8 days and some days the bleeding was just gushing. It was really horrible. I had that rainbow of colours as well. I don't know how many times I rang my OB in a panic cause I didn't know what was "normal".

Hi girls I hope everyone is doing well.

Smamfa my first miscarriage was like that but with my unknown bleeding problem (spot or bleed most days it was hard to tell wheb it stops or starts. Very frustrating I know, and I really hope the bleeding disappears soon hun xx

Afm- this miscarriage is so different to my last! I stopped bleeding literally bang on a week from the day it happened! Which is not like me my history is I used to bleed each day of the year I have gone off the pill and gotten it down to half a month so for bleeding to stop has me out of whack (was supposed to be bleeding for a while as their was a good amount of blood last week)
Still suffering symptoms (needing to pee often, sick on and off again, still getting cramps like af is coming, headaches, and more clear/white discharge) its almost 2 weeks since we lost button I thought I would feel more normal by now. Going to take a test this week (doc said it was a waste of fine for hcg bloods so had no follow up bloods) to see myself what is going on, if it's +ive I'll head back and demand to have bloods and check out why things arnt normal yet since it was an early pregnancy loss I would of thought like last time I would be back to normal quickly.
I still on a rollercoaster of emotions the fact still suffering symptoms which I wouldn't complain about if my lil button was still here. Just hate the words you can try again later atm ttc again won't be for a while assuming things go to plan (at least a years wait)! Anyway sorry to rant on I got to get back to DS3 poor lil bub caught a cold and has been off foods and having temps and not sleeping well hopefully won't affect his recovery from surgery he had 2 weeks ago for hypospadias, swelling finally going down and looking better each day.

Smamfa, my second miscarriage was like yours. I bled on and off for 9 weeks. Lasted so long that I actually thought I was pregnant again due to some symptoms popping back up and a positive hpt. Was just left over hormones. I also had awful runs the whole time too. I hope yours finishes up soon. I actually used acupuncture 3 months afteit my hcg returned to zero to get my cycle back on track. Resulting in my current pregnancy.
It's awful when you just want to move on and get on with things when your body won't follow suit.

Hi girls an update here, bought a digital and tested positive saying 2-3 which means 4 to 5 weeks. Literally feeling down I think it's time to go back and get bloods to see what's going on. I would of thought being not overly high hcg levels (compared to someone who may be 8 or 12 weeks it would of been gone within 2 weeks or not even shown a +ive on a digital (only tested +ive once on a digital with ds3 other two I didn't!) still having some cramping like af is popping by, I wish I was able to get into my ob, he is booked out for ages so stuck with the other ob who think hcg counts are a waste of time (maybe ill get him to scan again and see if their is anything left behind or blood waiting to expell)

Ashie - I too would be heading back to find out what's going on. Your levels must have been really high to still be showing 2-3 after 2 weeks. Ca you just go to your GP and request a BT to see what your levels are?

Hi girls,
I'm joining you today as I was diagnosed with missed miscarriage this morning. It was my first pregnancy after IVF and from the start things haven't been as it should have. HCG was very slowly rising, bub was 2 weeks behind in measurements so my ob wasn't very optimistic. Last scan last week the heart was beating very strong still, this morning, nothing, not a single beat :( Officially I'm 11 weeks, bub measured about 8 and a bit weeks today. I'm going in for a curette tomorrow as I wasn't keen to wait for bleeding to start by itself. Have been following your stories over the last couple of weeks and have been sad reading them. Hope you girls are alright!

Me4Ever - No No NO. I'm so sorry. I hate that this is happening to you. I hope all goes well tomorrow so you can heal and move on out of limbo land. :hug:

Hugs I am so sorry :(

Oh me4ever I am so so sorry.
It is such a hard time to go through and I hope you have all the support you need.
I hope tomorrow goes nice and smooth and that your on the road to recovery in no time.

Yesterday for me was 2 weeks post d&c and I am finnaly feeling like myself again.
Sending you lots of love and :hug::hug:

Ashie hun, I hope that you find out what is going on so you start to feel better soon. I think that going to the doc is a very good idea. Xx

Me4ever, I am so, so sorry darling, I had my fingers crossed tightly for you over the last few weeks. Go gently hun, it's such a devastating time. I wish this didn't happen to you. We are all here for you hunni :hug::comfort: xoxoxox

smamfa, Deedles, ashie and Alison, thinking of you ladies and sending much love while you heal :hug:xoxoxo

Me4ever I am so sorry for your loss xxx

Afm- I had some spotting this morning? So don't know if it's still the mc lingering or af?!
Ring the docs again and fx I can get an appt.
Suprised atm What are my hcg levels being they were over 2000 I thought they would be gone or only a tiny bit left. Still +ive on normal tests too.
Heart sank last night, ds1 was whimpering in his sleep saying that he wanted his sister (he doesn't have a sister?) I cant say to him no you'll most likely never have a sister so I just say maybe oneday? It's something he goes on about alot lately. We are looking at going for a weekend away with the kids and explained to him that it just us mummy daddy, you Ds2 and 3. Then he replied how about baby sister? Told him you don't have a baby sister, he replied he wanted mummy to have a baby sister in my tummy! God this kid is so clever! He didn't know we were pg but I think he senses!
Oh an upside kids gave me a sleep in woohoo! Feeling more awake today after the lack of sleep I've been having.

me4ever - Oh I am so so sorry to hear your news hunny. I am really sad that you are joining us here, it is not fair and not how it should be. I hope after tomorrow you can start the slow healing process :comfort:

ashie - yeah I'd agree getting your hcg levels done to check they are falling properly. Glad you got a sleep in! Sleep has been a rarety around as everyone has been on and off sick for 3 weeks.

MissB thanks for the thoughts. How are you going with ttc etc?

Deedles - glad you are starting to feel like yourself again. I am looking forward to getting there too, it will help when I am not sick and also when the bleeding stops. Is your cycle starting to come back or is it too early to tell?

porshe and ashie and rach - thanks for letting me know about your bleeding. Looks like the answer is, it could be anything! I really would like to ttc without waiting a cycle (did anyone here do that?), but I won't if I am still bleeding or spotting, I figure that is my body not being ready yet. But come on body!

love and hugs to all xx

With my bleeding problem I didn't know when I could ttc again so we just dtd as usual took 2 or 3 months after the mc to concieve ds3.
I've heard many of women falling pregnant within the first cycle so it is ok as long as you feel ready and that you feel that your body is going well. Big hugs Hun, I desperately want to ttc again but know I have to wait if I could I would be off dtd now pmsl! (abit happier as ds3 has been 100% himself today since being unwell so good to have happy boy back)

Hi Everyone,
I have been having a bit of a read and catching up. And my heart sinks when new people come into this group. Each person is experiencing a struggle which at times can be so dark. I hope you all feel support and love as you journey through this time.

I am going pretty well, physcially I am finally feeling back to normal energy, I have never been so flattened in my life, I guess losing 2 lts of blood will do that to you!!! Now that I am better DH has started to process what he saw and experienced, and he is totally traumatised. He can't stop seeing those images of me in ER as they bagged me and saved my life. I know the look on his face when I came back to, is one I will never forget, but I guess I did not realise how deeply this has affected him until now.
It's a tricky time, because I am starting to feel like talking about trying again in the next few months and he is petrified. I guess we can only go one step at a time, I would certainly not want to push that onto him when he is clearly not ready. He is getting support elsewhere to help him process it all which is great to know he is doing something about his grief and shock.

Love and thoughts with you all.

x

Hiya, am home again from hospital and am surprised at how I'm feeling. Definitely lost that pregnant feeling - and now of course am kinda bleeding like a normal AF (not too much though luckily). Am feeling empty and missing the fact that there was something growing inside me. You probably know what I mean ;). Oh well, one day we'll hopefully be there again, fingers crossed. For now am taking it easy and might have a break from TTC. We'll see.
Hope you girls are keeping up alright. Sending you all hugs and thanking you for your support! You girls rock!

Hi everyone, I'm sorry I've been MIA the last couple of weeks. Feels weird and wrong saying welcome to the new girls, it's lovely to meet you but I wish it wasn't in this thread if you know what I mean. Sounds like a few of us have miscarried at the same time.

Hi Smamfa - have been thinking of you often. It's been 2.5 week since my last D&C and I only stopped bleeding 5 days ago, had a good 10 days of bleeding. The day after the D&C I had nothing for 3 days and then it came on really heavy for 2 days and then went back to light bleeding/spotting but like you different colours, old blood, fresh blood, weird. It didn't really end until 5 days ago and then yesterday I had a bit of spotting, I am day 25 of my cycle today though and I usually have short cycles because of my luteal phase defect so day 23 is the norm for me. Hopefully it at least means my body is getting back on track quickly again. My D&C back in January was a bit different, I had bleeding for 7 days and then got AF again bang on my usual cycle time so hopefully my body knows how to repair quickly. I have to say though I'm enjoying not stressing about bad heart beats, bleeding, fluctuating progesterone, morning sickness, tiredness etc. Although it really took me a good week to get over the anesthetic this time, it really knocked me around. I had my hair done Friday and had to have a good couple of inches chopped off as my hair was so dry, the hairdresser thinks it's likely the anesthetic taking it's toll, twice in as many months and all. She's a friend of mine hence why she knows.

AFM - well as if things haven't been crappy enough I had to say goodbye to my beautiful 16 year old 4 legged doggie on Thursday so of course I've spent the last few days crying, again, it's all I do lately. My little girl keeps asking me if I'm ok, she's going to think her mum's a loony soon. My appointment with the new fert specialist is for 19th July so just enjoying the break for now, emotionally and physically need it.

Hugs and kisses to everyone and hoping you're all ok xx

Oh Alison, I'm sorry to hear about your beautiful fur baby. It's so sad when they leave us, big hugs honey :hug: In the mean time, enjoy your little break hun. Sometimes we need that xx

Hello to all my other beautiful friends in here, I hope you are healing well physically and emotionally :grouphug:

Alison - so sorry to hear about your woofa. Big hugs for you. Life has been putting you through the wringer lately hun. Hope you get some relaxing time before your appt, and hope you get to be 'selfish' and do a whole stack of things just about you - even if they are frivolous or whatever. xox

me4ever - yeah I know what you mean hun. Go gently. You'll be there again for sure, and hopefully it won't take long.

ladybirdflies - your poor dh (you too of course that goes without saying). Glad he is beginning to open up about it and get additional support too. I think if that happened my dh would want to give up ttc, but it is different for us we already have two lil ones. I wouldn't want to, so it would be a hard time.

ashie - so they don't know what causes your bleeding problem? And you bleed/spot the whole cycle? Did you have the same issue when ttc your boys? I used to have a lot of spotting before af that was caused by endo (mild) but that was only half my cycle, not all of it.

Big Hi to everyone else too. xxxx

Smamfa- it started after having ds1 had many tests and a d&c they just put it as unknown. I spot for at least half the month I did have down to 2 weeks but m/c has it all over the place now.
Tried most pills etc but found being off the pill was better. I would think after 3 c sections I would have some scarring maybe endo too but you know trying to find time to be checked out is hard specially with dh working we do need every cent.

Afm- bleeding has gone pretty much stopped the last 24 hours thank god! Last week has been crazy with weather, sick kids, and bleeding got worse just gushing not too heavy but just couldn't put my feet up abd stress makes my bleeding worse (I noticed with my af a while ago)
Stressed so much I got a bad stye which last a few days poor dh got bad looks as it looked like I had my eye beaten lol.
Still showing +I've hpt's but just going to wait it out maybe the hcg levels are going to take a while as they were higher than last time. So still been suffering bouts of nausea here and there.
But I am hoping it's the last of the bleeding dh is getting ummm well has an itch lol (secretly so do I) pmsl!

lol Ashie I was just thinking last night it's been 14 weeks since we've DTD - DH hasn't even asked thank goodness as it's been at the bottom of my list!!

AFM - I had my D&C follow-up yesterday, don't know why I bothered as my results from the pathology haven't come back yet, it's looking like tomorrow or next week. I do think I'm ovulating though as yesterday and today I have my usual stitch pains, it's taken a little longer for my cycles to get back on track this time but I may have a normal 4 week cycle which I don't normally get without progesterone supplementation. I'd have been 12 weeks today and I got a message from a friend saying she's 13 weeks pregnant, total surprise, wasn't trying yada yada yada, awesome thanks.

Hi all,

I have just experienced my first miscarriage. I started spotting last week and had a scan at 10 weeks showing bubs only measuring 7 weeks. I had my D&C on Tuesday. I'm just wondering if its normal not to experience much bleeding after a D&C? I've had hardly any loss so far and I'm feeling pretty good. So I'm just wondering if its normal or should I expect more? Basically I'm not really bleeding, just spotting a little. Is that normal?

Thanks

Hi BMW - so sorry you have to join us here, it's not a nice place for us to be in one respect but the girls in here are all so supportive and lovely. I've had 2 D&C's this year, my first in January I didn't bleed much, just a bit of light bleeding/spotting for 7 days. But my most recent one, 3 weeks ago I had a little bit on the day of the procedure, then nothing for 3 days and then quite heavy bleeding for a few days before light bleeding/spotting for another 7 days. I think it's all different and depends on how your body deals with it at the time. I was 8 and 9 weeks respectively. I am glad you are feeling pk considering but it is something that only time will heal completely, emotionally and physically. xx

BMW, I am so sorry you have found yourself in here hun :hug: I was doing a wee bit of stalking in your thread the last few weeks and was so happy for you to get your bfp, it just sucks things didn't go to plan. To answer your question, I didn't have much bleeding after my d & c, the bleeding was lighter than my normal AF, and lasted for about a week and then it stopped and then it started again for a few days, a few tiny clots but nothing major. It sounds like yours is not too bad, I think the emotional healing is harder. Big hugs sweetie xox

Hi Alison, ashie, smamfa, ladybirdflies, me4ever, deedles, and anyone else I missed. I am gearing myself for IVF cycle number 4, and am feeling slightly nervous but excited. So here we go again, don't really know what to expect, but a few more good eggs would be a great start!

b xxx

Hello BMW, as the others have said, welcome to our group, I am sorry that you had to come here, but at least you have a place of complete understanding and support to come to... and all the ladies in here are lovely!
I had a D&C a few months ago now, the bleeding was very light afterwards, like my period was ending. After a few days it became a tiny bit heavier and then when back to light, I bled for about a week. An increase in bleeding can mean that there is something still in there so if it does increase or you get a temp be sure to ring and ask for medical advice. I also found that if I wasn't resting enough the bleeding would increase. So be sure to rest, eat and drink well. As far as your emotional part goes, I hope you feel supported to talk or not talk, and stay true to how you are feeling as you walk this path.

Miss B- I totally am holding your hand every step of the way with this one, I am already holding my breath in anticipation for you... I hope you don't feel too anxious, please come in for support and updates if you can. I really feel so ready to try again, but have been told to wait another month, so I can live vicariously through you ok!!!!

AFM- like I said above, I am feeling great, my energy levels are the best they have been for a while and I am feeling ever so ready to start trying again. My DH is still very dubious, and we are being open and honest as we wonder what our future holds for us.

Big hello to everybody xx

Hi Miss B - how exciting! I might be joining you on the IVF road come July/August, I might need to ask some questions, I'm a bit scared of going to this next level, have heard so many things to put me off!

Hi Ladybirdflies - I am having a break too, no point risking things again, getting pregnant isn't my problem, keeping it is so I am having to wait until I can start this new lot of treatment. I am quietly enjoying the break to be honest, no blood tests, no HCG level testing, etc etc........plus I really want to lose some of the kgs I've put on since starting this road of fertility treatment, urgh! Just need to find the motivation......................

Hope everyone else is travelling well.

Ladybirdflies, it would be so awesome to be a belly buddy again with you hun! I know we weren't buddies for that long :( I'm so glad you have all your energy back hun, I feel like I have too, and have been waiting patiently for this cycle. Thanks for holding my hand lovely, I will really need it I think! I'll do the same for you when you're TTC :)

Alison, I'm glad you're having a great break from TTC, I'm sure it will do you a world of good hun. And IVF really isn't that scary hun if you have to travel down that road. I found it pretty good but I guess some people react OK to it all, and some people struggle physically and emotionally. I will be there for you if you ever need me hun. Big hugs lovely!

Hi Alison,
I can't help but ask a question if I may??

I don't have a problem getting pregnant either, that has been easy. But I have had two miscarriages the last two times, one in Dec last year and one in April this year. The Dr said they wait for three before doing anything about it. And I can't help but wonder should I seek some more advice before trying again? I have three healthy little girls, the youngest is two, I wonder why all of the sudden I can't seem to stay pregnant???


Until then, apparently drinking raspberry leaf tea and nettle tea are very nurturing for the womb, so glug glug glug, it can't hurt right??

MissB- I was writing the same time as you!!! Yes, I would love to be part of your journey again, something has us in the same place at the same time twice now, so hopefully the journey forward has us both blossoming bellies together... x

Hi Ladybirdflies - ask away! I had 2 early miscarriages within a few months last year, I had no problems falling with my little girl 2.5 years ago, took me 3 months after being on the pill for 19 years. Because of my age and the 2 m/c's I went to an FS, I had a feeling something was up because my cycles were getting shorter, my luteal phase was sitting on around 10/11 days, sometimes 9. All the testing revealed I have low progesterone, almost non existent in the 2nd half of my cycle - without that there is no way I can sustain a pregnancy. The mc in January turned out to be chromosomal after finally getting the progesterone under control with supplementation (typical) and this last one looks like being the same, but awaiting results so will let you know. I guess you need to look at a) are your cycles changing, I was having spotting leading up to AF, I ovulate around day 12 but was getting AF anywhere from day 21-23 on average. Some people also have clotting issue which effects implantation or sustaining an pregnancy, so they also had me on blood thinners which I don't think is necessary for me. Basically, because of my age I demanded looking into things - oh and I also found out I have a low egg count but my first 2 losses were within a day or two of my BFP's so around the 4 week mark hence why I couldn't have any testing done. These last 2 stuck around due to the progesterone so it enabled me to be tested. I think it depends on your age as to whether they take you seriously or not, but bottom line is if you want to delve into it, go for it, demand it, if I have learnt one thing it's to trust my instincts! Let me know if you have any other questions, I've been at this for 13 months like this, I don't want you to be too. In a nutshell, my first advice would be to get your progesterone levels checked in the 2nd half of your cycle, that can be a major player in not being able to hang onto a pregnancy and is easily fixed, if you get pregnant again beforehand, as soon as you get your BFP get your levels done and if they are low they can pop you onto supplementation to correct it. I was told most chromosomal defects will miscarry around the 6/7 week mark, that is when things started going pear shaped in my last 2, but because I was on the progesterone they held in for a little longer than they normally would have, not sure if that helps you? xx

Hi BMW - how are you holding up? Sending you big hugs (sending big hugs to everyone) - I know you'll need some... I have been spotting since the D&C last Friday. Then since Wednesday by the end of the day I start cramping and bleeding and in the morning it's back to spotting again. Am curious how long that will go for. I'm glad that it's all behind and am trying to focus on the future.

Alison - Like MissB was saying - IVF is really not that scary, I was really against starting with IVF, but we've gone through it once and it brought us our first BFP ever! (even if it didn't hold... It was great to be able to experience it..) Also that month flew by and I expected there would be more needles involved.

Ladybirdflies - I'm glad you're feeling more energetic and better than ever.

Smamfa and Ashie and anyone I've forgotten - How are you keeping up?

AFM - I can't believe it's already a week since the D&C. It's been a week of ups and downs (had my Birthday in between) and was especially sad that day, as we're about to break the news to the family :( The storms and depressing weather haven't helped much. Luckily I'm slowly starting to feel better. Today I had my first blood test again to see what the HCG is doing, am curious how long it will take to break down. Anyhow big hugs for everyone and take care!

me4ever, Happy belated birthday hun! I wish it was a happier one for you this year :hug: I'll be thinking of you as you break the news to your family, no doubt that will be hard. Huge hugs hunni xoxox

Hi me4ever - I had my birthday on Tuesday, happy birthday to us huh! Wishing you all the best when breaking it to your family xx

AFM - well I got my pathology results from the D&C, surprising.............normal chromosomes - another girl. So, I should be happy it's not chromosomal again but now I'm sad that she was normal but something else caused it. I am wondering if it was the blood clot, or my progesterone again. I guess I can ask all these questions when I see the new specialist next month. Made the mistake of watching One Born Every Minute last night, just depressed me, ho hum.

Happy birthday to me4ever and Alison, hope this year ahead is filled with marvellous things for both of you. I have a feeling it will be!

Yay for another ivf cycle soon MissB, I'm excited for you!

ladybirdflies - I don't know how old you are, but if you are older I think you could easily push to investigate mc before having to have a third one. If you are younger, it would probably be harder but you could still find a dr to investigate if you are really firm I think. I've had 3 in a row now (2 were only chemical) (had another inbetween my boys), and I have a referral to a recurrant mc specialist - which is good to have in my pocket but it doesn't *feel* to my like the ~9week mc is for the same reasons as my 2 chemical. I am thinking I am just unlucky and my age (40) doesn't help. However I may well make the appt.

BMW - so sorry to hear that. Big hugs.

I have finally stopped bleeding! (well, almost, still a bit of faint spotting today). I've had af this last week (came straight on top of the bleeding I was still having post-mc). Was probably my heaviest af ever but I suppose that makes sense. So hopefully my body is geared up to O soon (usually cd12 so it doesn't take long). We are trying again this month which I am looking forward to, but I think I am going to be pretty miserable if I don't fall again immediately (and I probably won't of course.) I'll have to remember how to dtd of course - it's been a while!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!