Goldilocks, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. You have expressed yourself wonderfully well in your post, and I hope that by sharing your journey, that it has been somewhat therapeutic for you. I know that the weeks ahead will be tough ones, but remember that there are unfortunately too many of us here at BB who have travelled similar paths, who will provide you with support and understanding......
Goldilocks,
How truely sorry I am to read of your loss. My heart goes out to you. I to suffered a bighted ovuum but started to spot at 7wks so had U/S straight away. Finallly naturally M/C at 10wks. You are right, you will see the world and your life through different eyes now. I cherish everyday and try to put simple, stupid, petty things to one side. I love my children even more than ever - something I didn't think was possible. You have turned a corner in your life. Not one that you would have willingly turned, but now it is done.
Please take care of yourself and hold your husband tight. He sure is a treasure.
If you need to talk I am always around.
OMG. Goldilocks i am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your hubby. Your post was so moving it brought me to tears. I am thinking of you.
Goldilocks, I am so so sorry for your loss. I'm in Adeliade and Sunny Summer alerted me to your post and I had to jump on BB right away to send you my most sincere condolences and . I know this is a very difficult time right now but I hope you are able to move forward soon. All my hugs and best wishes to you and DH. Hang in there and if you need anything, please feel free to contact me.
I know your pain only too well- as do most of us here on BB. My 12 week scan revealed no heartbeat - bub dead at 6 weeks and 4 days. How do you put that into words and even worse how do you tell family and friends.
You are so right when you talk about the loss of innocence - i had never heard of anyone having such problems in my world until it happened to me and my BB friends told me of their individual experiences knwong that there was someone out there that knew how I felt helped. Plse dont feel alone it sounds like you have the love of a good man. If you need to move then do it, concentrate on making you both well again. The mental scars are worse than any physical ones. After my D and C I just sat on my couch for 10 days no shower no nothing ( poor DH) in my PJ's. Refused all those reaching into my void to try and help me with empty words.
I will be thinking of you
It does get a little easier as the months pass - allow yourself the time you require to grieve
Huge hugs to you both
XXXXXX
Goldilocks, I know exactly how you feel. We discovered on Tues during an emerg. ultrasound that I'd had a missed miscarriage. I can't get that image out of my head. I had a d&c on Wed also - a very long day. I don't think I have any tears left. I'm sure we will get pregnant soon - as soon as we're allowed anyway, but it doesn't change the fact that I want to be pregnant now! I would have been 12 weeks on Monday. To think that my baby died and I didn't even know it. I also felt that something wasn't quite right, but I didn't confide in anyone, not even my husband. I didn't get too attached, and I felt funny whenever someone asked about "bubs". I can't explain it, just mothers' intuition I guess. My poor husband has been wonderful too, we are so lucky to have them! Just take care of yourself and think to the future, it will all work out for you, I'm sure.
Goldilocks, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and you DH. I wish there was someway I could take away all your pain. My heart always sinks when I see a new post about a much loved and wanted baby becoming an angel. Again I am so sorry.
Very very sorry to hear about your loss. I can relate to you when you said that you knew that something wasnt not right, I've been there and it's hurtful when people try and brush it off hoping it will make you feel better when deep down it doesnt. The only thing that will is when you hold that baby in your arms.
I can never fully enjoy ANY of my pregnancy til I get past that 12 weeks, it's a cruel blow when some can just take it for granted and enjoy the pregnancy from the get go. I never write a due date on my calender anymore, it's too heart breaking to even think that far ahead. Wishing you all the best on the next pregnancy
Awww Goldilocks , I know to well what you are going through, the very same thing happened to us and i also was telling DH not to get his hopes up as i was not feeling good about this pregnancy, be strong sweets, you don't froget but the pain eases.
As Mr Goldilocks, first I want to thank all of you for your support you've given Belinda initially during our pregnancy and now during these tough times.
I've done what I can as her husband to keep her spirits up but I cannot offer her the female perspective. That is why, all your wonderful words of wisdom for her and the support which she received from her Mom has made the healing process for her easier.
I know alot of you have urged me to let my feelings out, At first I was doing what i can to be strong for Belinda cos I know just how devasted she was that we lost 'Gee Bee' (as we were calling him/her).
When we were at the ultrasound, and the image came up on the screen, I also knew what had happened but being forever an Optimist I was hoping that the bub was perhaps hiding away. (yes my naievity shows- where would it be hiding )
I kept looking over at Belinda and I could tell she already knew, She's done soo much research that she probably knew more than the Doctor did.
I can't tell you how much my heart was broken at that point. She would make the perfect Mother and I so wanted everything to be right for her. I even told her to quit work a few weeks prior so she can relax and make sure that the bub would be alright, I meant it. When she said she did not feel right, I should've urged her to go have an ultrasound, what I did was tell her that she should be positive about it etc.
Next time she tells me she doesn't feel well, I am dropping everything and make sure that we go visit a GP.
I feel like I have let her down in that department, not listening to her feelings..... Afterall, she's the one carrying the bub not me so she'd know. I promise that next time she will be pampered 10 times more than usual.
We both want to have bubs asap but I know that when the time is right, it will happen for us. It still doesn't stop the hurt from losing this one.
Apparently in about 7 months I will be a qualified midwife - yikes!
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Captain Daddy aka Mr Goldilocks,
Firstly what an amazing couple you are! Your love and support for each other is truly inspirational!
Goldi's post had me in tears originally, now you have also!
I do not understand the pain that you have both been dealt, but I sure as hell hope that should my DH and I ever have to face something like this, that we can support each other half as well as what you both have. Really you are both truly amazing in your devotion to each other.
I hope and pray that both of you have the joy of holding a bubba in your arms before long, because you will make amazing parents.
I am sending you both as many as possible! Take care of yourselves
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