Thankyou so much for all ur replies, I've taken it all onboard. I saw my ob. just before and decided to go ahead with the d&c, it is booked in for this afternoon, it feels so soon but no point prolonging it I guess! My ob. will be doing it and said he will send it away for testing and Ill find out if it was a boy or girl, I guess that's the closure I need.. or maybe it will make it harder knowing the sex, but its all pretty hard anyway so what's the difference! I am trying so hard to focus on what we have already... An absolutely perfect little girl.. but its so hard having your future plans and dreams torn from u... As all of u know thankyou all so much again xxx