We lost our son Nicholas nearly 7 months ago. He was diagnosed with cancer just after his 1st birthday but it ended up too big a fight. Here is a poem that we had at his funeral on a keepsake bookmark.

You can shed a tear that he is gone
Or you can smile because he has lived
You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back
Or you can open your eyes and see the joy he's given

Your heart can be empty because you cant see him
Or you can be full of the love you shared
You can turn your back on tomorrow, and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember him and only that he's gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can want what he'd want;
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Obviously people who have had a miscarriage will be saying i didnt get to do any of that, but having had 2 myself before i fell pregnant with Nicholas its nice to just think of what may have been with those children...
RIP Nicholas 08/03/07 - 07/12/08