I am so so sorry for your loss - at the end of the day it is totally up to you. In my opinion I would go for the D & C.

I have had two micarriages the first one I was only 4weeks along and I let it happen naturally and it was horribly painful for me. The second time we thought we were 17 weeks pregnant and went in for a scan and were told that our baby had died between 12-14 weeks. We were not really given an option in fact we were encouraged to go home and let nature take its course - Our local hospital is **** but that is another story. We were given no information as to what to expect and I was too upset to do any research.

Anyway we decided to go to melbourne and help a friends sister to move (we are 2 hours from melbourne) we got just out of melbourne and I didnt feel right downstairs so I asked our friend if he could pull into a servo so I could go to the toilet. The following may upset some people so I am sorry for that but this is a very hard thing for me to share also. I went to the toilet and I could feel something at the opening to my Vagina, it was my baby - I was holding my baby in my hand in a service station toilet. I could see its tiny fingers and arms and legs I freaked out and dropped it in the toilet. That is the hardest part for me to tell you. I will never forgive myself for doing that but I had no option at the time. I then went back to the car and told my husband and I broke down in the service station. I told my husband that I needed to go to the supermarket to get some bigger pads and maybe a spare pair of undies just in case. We got to the supermarket and I asked my husband to get the stuff for me while I waited outside I could feel the flow was heavy and I was scared that if I walked it would leak out. All of a sudden everything just let go and there was blood everywhere right out the front of the supermarket just out of melbourne in front of everyone. we had to call the ambulance and I was taken to the hospital. I had to have a D & C.

However horrible this situation was and no matter what it will stay with me forever but I believe having the D & C was the best thing I could have done - the bleeding was all gone and I could move on also I believe it helped us get pregnant again and helped my baby stay.

I am now a proud mum to a 3.5 month old baby girl who I love so much.

honestly I believe a D & C is the way to go. I also know other people who have had multiple miscarriages and then they finally have a D & C and get pregnant and stay pregnant.

All the best on your decision and for the future. If you have any questions or need someone to speak to please feel free to message me. I am sorry for such a long post and I hope I havent upset anyone.