I guess Jules if ttc straight away is important to you then maybe the d & c would be a better option, your body hasn't started to miscarry naturally, it may happen tomorrow, it may happen in 6 weeks - you just don't know. Unfortunatly you can't pick the day, that for me also played a big part, i didn't want to be at work one day and start to miscarry there.

I had the same feelings as you as far as terminations go, but you have to say to yourself I loved my baby, I wanted my baby - it just wasn't meant to be, that makes it very different from an abortion. Thats what i said to myself anyway.

8 months on, and pregnant again we are able to look back on the life that never was and make light of it all - I tell my DP that our bean was exactly like him, so lazy he didn't even bother to turn up. It makes us laugh. The pain eases but you never forget.

x