What can we do for a friend who has lost her baby?

[cindyb]

I am not sure there is much you can do other than let her know that you are there for her when she needs to talk.

I am so sorry to hear of such a tragedy, the name in the sand idea is a great one - or maybe buy her a star?

[blessedatlast]

Losing a baby is such an awful experience and everyone copes differently, but in my experience and from hearing of others, the worst thing is when bub isn't acknowledged.. The Names in the sand thing is a beautiful idea, also acknowledge the baby's birth.. Ask the 'normal' questions you would have asked had she been alive.. Weight, length, etc.. ask to see photos (or ask if they have any, then their reaction will let you know if they want to show you or not).. Acknowledge that they are parents. And be there months after not just 'now'.. You may find everyone is there for them now, but will 'move on' in a month or so and thats when it can really hit home and it starts to sink in.. It is so beautiful that you have actually taken the time to ask what to do.. to your friend..