Devil's advocate here, but could it be that they don't know just how prem that is? Not everyone knows that the average pregnancy is 40w, so maybe they thought the bub was close to term anyway? Same with the weight, some people might not twig just how tiny that is...

But if they do know, poo to them! I know how much my mum struggled having a 34-weeker, never mind smaller...


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I tend to agree. I sincerely hope that no-one would genuinely pass off such a worrying experience so light heartedly if they actually knew that these circumstances were not in fact good.

Alternatively, other people may not know what to say. They may want to try to recreate as much sincere joy for the parents if the process is going to happen anyway. KWIM?

People often through trying to make others feel better, or trying to take the 'darkness' out of a situation can make the other person feel worse, without that ever being their intention.

I'm sorry my words are probably not 'exactly' what I wanted to say, but my thoughts are with that family and I'm really hoping that it has the best possible outcome.

In my thoughts