Hun, usually these things are completely out of our hands! You didn't do anything wrong! Congratulations on the arrival of little Jett and I hope you have a heap of support around you hun!
You didn't fail him at all, you brought him safely to the world as best you could And I think it's fantastic that you were able to get him human milk rather than do the "easy" thing and stick him on formula - it might not be your milk, but it would have done him a great deal of good. I look forward to hearing all about him
Congratulations on the birth of Jett! (Beautiful name BTW)
As the others have said, you did not fail him at all. These things happen sometimes unfortunately, and we just have to do our best.
I don't really know what to say, bu I just want to offer you my support and comfort. You and Jett will be in my prayers. Hope he does well and is out of NICU and home with you and Oscar as soon as possible. You have been through so much and are such an amazing person. This is exprience too will make you stronger and a great mummy to your boys. Lots of hugs to you and your LOs.
Oh, and well done for expressing BM. That's wonderful. Do not hesistate to call the ABA or ask to see a lacation consultant if you have any questions or need support with this, as you are doing a fantastic thing.
It is certainly an emotional rollercoaster hun, my thoughts are with you and Jett at this precious time.
FWIW, you haven't failed him, and you still can reassure him everything will be ok. Soon you should be able to do the 'top to toe' washes, change the nappies etc. We had a wooky system where I had one and DD had one, I would wear it usually stuffed down my bra lol. At each visit I would swap the wookies over to help get used to each others scent.
Massive hugs for you, you're a brave & strong woman :-)
Having a NICU baby is far from failing! He has people looking after him 24/7, working towards making him strong enough to go home with mummy to his gorgeous big brother. Rest up and feel comforted by the fact that you ARE doing the best for him! Maybe try and turn this frustration into something positive, like expressing for him in the hopes of having a BF boy when he gets home
Anytime you want to talk PM me or FB me. We did our trime in NICU with the girls (born 33+6)
xx
Oh Hun, I know all these emotions are very real but believe me, you have not failed your beautiful baby boy. He already knows the nurturing touch of his mother hands and the love and energy that comes from them, comforting him whilst he lays in his isolotte growing stronger every day.
Hoping the NICU journey is a smooth one and that Jett goes from strength to strength and will be home in your arms really soon.
Please don't be sorry, that is what we are all here for
You have not failed your beautiful baby Jett, and you should not feel guilty. What matters most now is that you are gentle on yourself, look after yourself, and your little man, and we will all be here beside you sending you all the strength and positive vibes you need
You dont have to be sorry for anything hun
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