Having a NICU baby is far from failing! He has people looking after him 24/7, working towards making him strong enough to go home with mummy to his gorgeous big brother. Rest up and feel comforted by the fact that you ARE doing the best for him! Maybe try and turn this frustration into something positive, like expressing for him in the hopes of having a BF boy when he gets home
Anytime you want to talk PM me or FB me. We did our trime in NICU with the girls (born 33+6)
xx
Congrats again on the birth of Jett Please don't be so hard on yourself, you've been through quite a dramatic, and very fast labour and birth, all very unexpected.... you would be dealing with tons of different emotions right now, not to mention HORMONES!!!! As your body adjusts to post birth......
Wishing Jett a fast and healthy time spent in NICU so he can be home and in his mummy's arms very soon.... and yes he knows you love him You brought him into this world, it doesn't matter how. he's just thankful that he's here.
It must be such a hard thing seeing your baby in the NICU though and not being able to hold him or feed him as you wish.... xxx
Oh Hun, I know all these emotions are very real but believe me, you have not failed your beautiful baby boy. He already knows the nurturing touch of his mother hands and the love and energy that comes from them, comforting him whilst he lays in his isolotte growing stronger every day.
Hoping the NICU journey is a smooth one and that Jett goes from strength to strength and will be home in your arms really soon.
Thanks beautiful ladies, I know i havent failed him to a point. I just feel like if i had just taken all my life stresses in my pride i wouldnt of put extra stress on my pregnant body. Im also baring the brunt and feeling guilty on behalf of his non existant father, who hasnt even acknowledged his existance, not even a lousy 25c text msg- i lie a FREE text msg.
I just wish i could hold him. I think that is the hardest part.
I know having a NICU baby is far from failing and i just want to make that clear i think i worded it incorrect and i apologise. I guess what i ment is i feel like i myself failed him because i didnt look after myself.
Thanks for all the reply ladies, dont know what i would do without this place You really are like my little angels telling me to keep going!
oh and thankgosh for IPHONES- i am going crazy in this place from boredom.
O & G - Huge Congratulations on the arrival of your little man. He sounds gorgeous and so precious.
You have done so well for him - you got medical help when you needed it and got him out safely. You have done an amazing job.
Don't stress about your milk. He was only 48 hours old last night and milk can take a few days to come in. It's great that you have some already. Lots of people can take a day or two more before they get any so you are doing really really well.
Thanks for keeping us updated on your little man and his progress in what must be a very difficult time for you. Look forward to hearing how he goes.
You are an amazing Mum and Jett is one lucky little boy to have you
B - it is a horrible feeling waiting for your milk when your premmie bub needs it... thankfully you have the milk bank for the interim... it can be so hard. I wish someone had introduced me to the hospital pumps sooner. My milk didn't come in until day 4 and I was so stressed waiting for it and that is fairly 'quick' I was told by the nurses for a premmie mum.
Bah to lousy, absent fathers
Well done on all your hard work so far - you've already produced some milk, that's great! I hope it's not much longer before you can hold your little man.
You are doing an amazing job hun! Its so great to hear that you got to use the mothers milk bank. I'm planning to donate to them with my baby this time and its soooo good to hear of someone who has been able to benefit from it!
Looking forward to sharing your journey on BB. What lucky boys you have.
You are amazing. XP is a douche. Someone else is amazing - you know who i mean.
Im so glad little J has your name! Not long now til you can hold your precious little bubba! Now my little princess has 2 little boyfriends to choose from hehe. You are in no way a failure and should never blame yourself. XP is a failure in soooo many ways!
If you need ANYTHING call or message me! So so proud of you! Here's hoping little Jett's stay is short and sweet xo
My DD was also premmie due to placenta abruption at 29 weeks 6 days (via emergency c-section). I think it is not very common, and it is soooo frightening when it happens. PM me if you ever want to talk about it. I had to have a general anesthetic as part of the placenta came out as well and DD's heart beat was way too low. We were home in 6 weeks 4 days fully breastfeeding (2 weeks NICU, the rest special care).
It is so surreal getting used to the NICU life, so use whatever supports they have. ASk to see the social worker/counsellor if they have not seen you yet, and do not stress too much about how much milk you get at first. It can take time to increase when you are only able to pump. Hopefully you will get lots of kangaroo cuddles soon and then before you know it little Jett will be home.
and to say that Jett knows how much his mummy loves him.
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You brought him into this world, it doesn't matter how.
You really are like my little angels telling me to keep going!
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