Hi. Congratulations to your friend and I will be praying for her little boy.
My sister had my nephew at 24+4. he is now 2 and 1/2 (actual age). I know my sister said that a lot of people didn't even really congratulate them on the birth. So if you can send flowers or a little gift congratulating them. Also if you are able to cook them some meals or do some grocery shopping for them. They will have little time to do this for themselves. I suggest when you get a chance ask them what you can do. You are a great friend to be this thoughtful.
Good luck to them all. My little nephew is an example of the wonderful work they do in the nicu.
Congrats to your friend on birthing her little man.
A girl i worked with had her daughter at 25wks and she is perfectly healthy now (she'd be close to 1yr old), they had A LOT of time in hospital and it was very tiring for them so i think it's the little things that will help.
Are they going to stay at Ronald McDonald house or something similar, could you organise some meals to be taken to them?
A voucher for some premmie clothes, possibly even a visit from you once they are up to it, take her for a coffee or something?
A friend who's going through the same thing at the moment said the worst part is people don't know how to act around her, they don't ask how her son is doing in case the answer isn't perfect, she just wishes her friends would ask to go for a coffee or get excited to bring by the presents they'd bought (even if the clothes are WAY too big)....
A dear friend of mine has not long come home with her little man who was born at 24 weeks. He came home only a few weeks after what would have been his due date and is doing really well. She was the opposite of what some of the PP's have said. She really struggled with everyone congratulating her, and didn't want visitors or people sending/giving gifts. We kept up a constant txt conversation and whilst she was always positive, she just really struggled with celebrating his early arrival.
I contacted her Mom and asked if I could cook or clean or anything but she said they were fine. I bought some hand cream (washing her hands a squillion times at the hospital), and petrol voucher for all the trips back and forth, and a tiny little toy for him. I popped it in the mail with a card saying they were in my thoughts and prayers, and I was there if needed. I did contact the hospital to try and get a gift card or credit note for the cafe but they didn't do them.
I guess it's a matter of it's different for each and every person, and at this point could change on a daily basis too. You'll know pretty quickly what to do and how to go about doing it. Your friend and her little man are in my prayers.
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