A dear friend of mine has not long come home with her little man who was born at 24 weeks. He came home only a few weeks after what would have been his due date and is doing really well. She was the opposite of what some of the PP's have said. She really struggled with everyone congratulating her, and didn't want visitors or people sending/giving gifts. We kept up a constant txt conversation and whilst she was always positive, she just really struggled with celebrating his early arrival.

I contacted her Mom and asked if I could cook or clean or anything but she said they were fine. I bought some hand cream (washing her hands a squillion times at the hospital), and petrol voucher for all the trips back and forth, and a tiny little toy for him. I popped it in the mail with a card saying they were in my thoughts and prayers, and I was there if needed. I did contact the hospital to try and get a gift card or credit note for the cafe but they didn't do them.

I guess it's a matter of it's different for each and every person, and at this point could change on a daily basis too. You'll know pretty quickly what to do and how to go about doing it. Your friend and her little man are in my prayers.