Thanks for your reply Ryn I think you have hit the nail on the head - it is me not my little girl trapped in the whole thing of focusing on her prematurity - and is it really doing her any good? Who cares that she arrived prem? Time to move on from it. She is fine; doing everything she should. I am going to practice not bringing the word prem into conversation!
Sometimes the perspective of someone outside the whole situation is the key.
Ok its .... for me now its 4.17am....