newborn in parents room?

[kristy J]

we put Isaac in his own room with no problems. in a cradle, we had an angel care monitor. he is an awsome sleeper.

Our bedroom is grown up space. a place for love and romance etc... i think our children take up 95% of our lives and we give it to them with joy; but that last 5% still needs to belong to our relationships, husbands, partners, etc.
I know so many people who's relationships suffer from having baby in their room at night. A private grown up space is so important.

[smiles4u]

We had our daughter in a bassinette & then the cot til she was about 18mths in our bedroom.

... I just loved waking up in the mornings to see her sweet lil face staring at me. It was the best part of my day

She started sleeping in her cot in HER nursery when she was about 18mths old. Though most of the time she wakes up about 2am & ends up in our bed now, so at times I wonder if it was the best thing for her.

BUT having said that I could NEVER have imagined putting a newborn in a room all on their own. OMG I was just terrified of SIDS, etc ..

Those gadgets to detect SIDS to put in their nursery wouldn't have made a difference to me. I just wanted to hear her breathing myself

[kristy J]

BUT having said that I could NEVER have imagined putting a newborn in a room all on their own. OMG I was just terrified of SIDS, etc ..

Those gadgets to detect SIDS to put in their nursery wouldn't have made a difference to me. I just wanted to hear her breathing myself

Its sad that this (sids) happens. It is just the worst thing for any parent. unfortunatly if its going to happen it will. there is nothing anyone can do to stop it. i know someone who lost a baby to sids and her baby was in her room.
but if the mum sleeps better with baby in their room than its better for mum to have them here. I was the opp where i didn't want Ike in our room at all, i did everything i could to prevent sids but then put it out of my mind.

[Janie]

DS was in our room until 6 months, when he grew out of his bassinette. We then started to have him in our bed sometimes. Something that, pre-baby, I swore I'd never do, but I actually like it It was great having him in our room early on though, there's absolutely no way I would have felt comfortable putting him in his own room as a newborn.

I'm sure I've read research that says that cosleeping (in all it's forms) decreases the SIDS risk. Interestingly, all our HCPs were always checking that DS was in with us, as he was prem. It was recommended to us, although we were going to do it anyway.

I have to say, I disagree with the PP, SIDS doesn't always "just happen", often, tragically, there would have been some way of preventing it. I am not at all putting blame on parents, but sometimes a SIDS death is preventable.

[*Efjay*]

I think, but don't hold me to it. The reason co-sleeping helps reduce the risk of sids comes back to the fact that when you co sleep you & your babys sleep cycles become one. Also I believe (but again don't hold em too it) thatthere is something to do with your breathing being in sinc with baby....

I am sure I have read this somewhere but I can't think of where or the exact "research"

[Zee]

We had DD room set up with a cot etc but i brought a bassinette and had it in our room till 6 weeks when she started sleeping through the night without a feed so i moved her into her room then but kept her in the bassinette for awhile longer before moving her into the cot.

I found with DD in our room beside my bed every lil noise she made I sat up to look at her to make sure she was alright so barely slept... I will only keep Lucus in our room till he sleeps through the night and then he will be put in his own room.

[Nai]

I agree, definitely get the bassinette. We had DD in our room for 4 months and gradually moved her into her own room. For me it was so much easier to do the night breastfeeds, not having to get out of bed at all and if she was ever restless I just popped my arm between the bars on the cradle and was able to pat her back to sleep.

Again, it also meant that some of her day sleeps could be with me in the lounge room or I could wheel her around while in the kitchen or bathroom.

She had absolutely no problems transitioning to her own cot in her own room once it was time to go. Even if you don't use it, at least you have it as an option.

[Ginger]

i agree with FJ and Janie- i've read as well that co-sleeping regulates the baby's breathing, therefore reducing the risk of SIDS.

[Janie]

Whether or not you cosleep, a bassinette is a great option to have. Like others, I used to wheel DS around during the day, sometimes he'd sleep in the loungeroom, others in our room. I transitioned his day sleeps into the cot first, then night when he was about 6 months. He had no problems moving into his cot. I did though, I missed him! I sleep alot better when he's in our room.

[DaintreeDream]

I plan on having DD in our room at night in her bassinette, however during the day she will go into her cot in her room where she can get used to the space of the cot and the feel of her own room, that way I can keep an eye on her whilst I am up anyway. I would ideally like to have her in her own room by 8-12 weeks however we will go with the flow.

Good luck.

[LimeSlice]

lol...so true Janie! When DF asked me to mve Charlotte into her room I was so upset! Slowly getting used to it though..

[kristy J]

ok so how do i put this...........How do you have pashionate (sp?) sex with baby in the room? sorry for TMI.. I know your in the clear for the first 6-8 weeks but what about after that. I would be so worried about waking baby up. or even a toddler; like some people have in their room/bed. A GF i have known for years told me it can be weeks between sex because her DS sleeps in their bed. it affects her relationship with DF.

I still think mum and dad's bedroom should be a private escape.
don't get me wrong Isaac comes into out bed but only after 6am for a morning cuddle.

[*LovemyKids*]

Ok well i have done two different things.

With DS1 he slept in our room in his cot till he moved into a big bed and about 18 months. It was really hard to actually get him to stay in his own bed in his own room. So i personally would not do that again. ( ps with DTD well let me just say there are more rooms to our house then just the bed room lol)

With DS2 he was in a bassinet in our room until he moved into his cot at about 3 or 4 months old i can't really remember. It was a really east transition and iwill be doing this again with this baby.

I don't think that i could but the baby straight into their own room. I feel more comfortable having them in my room for the first few months.

I think that it is a personal choice what you do do just do whatever works for you.

HTH
Nikki

[Ginger]

ok so how do i put this...........How do you have pashionate (sp?) sex with baby in the room? sorry for TMI.. I know your in the clear for the first 6-8 weeks but what about after that. I would be so worried about waking baby up. or even a toddler; like some people have in their room/bed. A GF i have known for years told me it can be weeks between sex because her DS sleeps in their bed. it affects her relationship with DF.

I still think mum and dad's bedroom should be a private escape.
don't get me wrong Isaac comes into out bed but only after 6am for a morning cuddle.

who says you only have to have sex in your bed and at night?
believe me, there are plenty of ways/places/times to work around it.

[LimeSlice]

Kirsty: I hear what you are saying! lol I think it can be done especially with a younger bubba, a toddler may be more difficult...but then again, *someof us* (ahem) STILL dont have have a goddamned libido...

(AND WE MAY JUST LIKE IT BACK NOW THANKS!!!)

lol sorry.

So it hasnt been an issue for us, as you can see.

[*Efjay*]

Remember I said all 3 of my kids have & or still are cosleeping in my bed. I am pregnant with # 4.
The bed room isn' t the only place & really its a bit boring if it is.

[LimeSlice]

pmsl FJ...clearly you have found alternatives...



gooooo FJ!!!

lol

[Mollygirl]

I had both of my kids in my room next to the bed for the first 3 months approx, until they grew out of the bassinet. I loved it because when they woke for a bf I just picked them up and didn't have to get out of bed (one was born in winter and one in summer). I would highly recommend it. DH learnt to sleep through the noise.

When I moved them to their cot, in their room, I put them in a snuggle bed first so they didn't get feel too overwhelmed with all the space in the cot.

Both are well adjusted to their own rooms and neither have ever slept in our bed or come into our bed at night. If i had more room in our bedroom I would have the cot in there for about the first 9 months (SIDS recommend 12 months I think) but there just isn't the room.

Goodluck - do what you find comfortable, happy Mum = Happy Baby.