BUT having said that I could NEVER have imagined putting a newborn in a room all on their own. OMG I was just terrified of SIDS, etc ..

Those gadgets to detect SIDS to put in their nursery wouldn't have made a difference to me. I just wanted to hear her breathing myself
Its sad that this (sids) happens. It is just the worst thing for any parent. unfortunatly if its going to happen it will. there is nothing anyone can do to stop it. i know someone who lost a baby to sids and her baby was in her room.
but if the mum sleeps better with baby in their room than its better for mum to have them here. I was the opp where i didn't want Ike in our room at all, i did everything i could to prevent sids but then put it out of my mind.