Like Kristy the only reason why we had automatically thought we would put her in her own room was to keep our space. Its less about dtd for me but just about our room being OUR space, I don't want to lose every bit of time we get together without a baby. I want to snuggle and be close with dp when its time for us to go to bed. I still do not want a toddler in our bed all night but in saying that I am looking forward to her getting up early in the morning for hugs in our bed - if she chooses, or coming to us when she has a bad dream. I dont want to banish her from our room I just want some time for just me and dp and when she is alseep is the best/only time.

After discussing the whole thing with DP we decided to move the portacot into our room for the first 6-8 weeks (but thats not written in concrete) and she will sleep in there at night - more to keep me happy then the baby!!! Her day sleeps will be in her cot in her room so she is used to her space and bed, hopefully making transition easier.

At 6-8 weeks we will have a monitor in bubs room (which we already have anyway) and she is right next door which I think makes a BIG difference. I think I would be a little uneasy if the room was in the opposite end of a big house but in our case the cot is against the wall that is shared with our room.

Thanks for everyones input...... it was all fantastic and really gave me something to think about. I do feel a lot better already knowing that I will be able to hear her breathing and she is safe with us. I am anxious enough about everything else that comes with parenting so it feels nice to know this is something I can stop worrying about now.