What you are writing could be a mirror of my 6 months ago... *hugs* its so frustrating. I do think some of it is completely normal. In fact if he didn't tantrum he would be strange.

My child has always been the "naughty" one, the feral who is the destructo, never joins in, etc etc... and while we haven't seen the end of it yet, we are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel.

Matilda has JUST stopped her escapism. Not when we are at a park etc, then she loves to bolt (generally towards cars... thats her favourite ) but she used to climb out our windows & run to the street or over our 6 foot fences. I don't know if thats normal, but its stopped recently.

However, the boundary pushing is still a favourite pastime of hers. With DH this morning she pulled out all stops including weeing on his computer. No joke. She jumped up & started to wee on the box when he pulled her off & I'm pretty sure there was a lather around his lips.... he had to lock himself in the room to calm down. I took her outside on the verandah. She has only just discovered defiant weeing.... joy.

It took her until 2 months after her 3rd birthday to get TT. Even then she still sometimes chooses not too. Mainly behaviourally though, not because she can't.

So no answers but just *hugs* and understanding. Its frustrating & exhausting.