I'm really sorry if you took offense to my post, but please read it again. I was only suggesting things by using words like "maybe" and "make sure".

Personally I do have a very strong belief about not smacking children, but i was in no way trying to put you down.

I still hope things are going well with you and you found some things that are helping with your problem. I agree with the pre-school/daycare idea, that's something to power her out everyday. DS loves going to Kinder and is always too tired when he gets home to argue