Jenstar, when my DD was born after emergency c/s DH went back to work when she was 2 weeks old. He was driving 75klms to get to his then job, to start around 8am i think, finish at 5, home around 6ish and would then hang out clothes, bathe DD and help me get dinner ready.
Now he works a different job where by the time he wakes up then gets home from work he has been up about 15 hours, working 12.25 of them. He doesn't feel like doing much when he gets home, can't really blame him there though, but sometimes he helps with dinner. He always has 'his' time when he gets home, 5 minutes to himself then DD and I can unload whatever happened during the day on him. depending on what day it is, DD might read a school book to him instead of me.
On his days off he usually cooks. I always do the dishes, he has on occasion helped me out with that, not many though. He is learning to take the rubbish downstairs before the bin is overflowing all over the floor, but I still yet to train him to bring out the old toilet rolls LOL!
My DH has lots of other little pet hates, like leaving dirty clothes on the bedroom floor then wondering why he has no clean clothes?? I explained to him recently that it's the little things like the rubbish, loo rolls and dirty clothes, that take less than 2 minutes to do, that I really appreciate. I think it shows that he is willing to make some sort of effort and not just leave it hoping I will do it, a little bit of help goes a long way and also makes me feel just that little bit more appreciated.
Once I felt like he appreciated me then the housework didn't seem like such a chore, don't know if that makes sense or not?

Goodluck!

Nic