I too am a sahm my husband works 14 hour days 5-6 days a week and is away from home all week. So I am on my own most of the time.

I do everything around the house. I do everything with the kids. He will play or disipline them when he is home. I used to feel resentful of this. But mostly I try to remember how hard he works and how much he sacrifices so that I can stay home. It is easier for me as he doesn't have any free time either so it is fair although I think I gave the better deal.

In the spring he is off work for 3 month straight. 24/7 he could help but really doesn't much. That drives me nuts. He plays pretend poker on-line, and sleeps and putters around. I find that I get mad that he goes out and has fun and I am at home all the time. But if I make plans then he steps up and will look after our little monkeys. I always feel better when I get out and a make those plans. Especially when the youngest poops everywhere or something crazy happens that I deal with all the time that he never has to deal with.

So My only advice is to plan outings for yourself and I am sure he will step up and surprise you.