Aww hun, I'm so sorry you're going through this!

I work opposite shifts to DH, but I'm lucky that I get relief (either from actually being at work lol, or with DH and I both being at home at the same time for a few hours).

My only advice - bribery .

I have found that DD absolutely loves a 'princess dress' she owns. I say 'now if you go to sleep all by yourself, straight away, I'll let you wear the princess dress in the morning' - and after a week or so I've not even had to use the dress to get her to sleep, we've got the routine. Then I used the dress to get her to help clean the toys up and now she just does it automatically. I find that the use of bribery has led to routine, which has solved my problem of the kids not listening to me (they'll listen to DH, but thats no good when he's at work).

If your DD loves a certain item, outing, game - use it to your advantage Winter - take no prisoners hun !