Hi Hun,

That is a horrible situation to be in.

You need to realise that you deserve to be in a loving, trusting relationship where you don't have to worry about affairs and things like that. I honestly don't believe in staying for the kids. My mum did this when she was in an emotionally and physically abusive realtionship with my dad and it doesn't work.

In regards to the paint situation things like that are bound to happen and all you can really do is laugh.

I think happy mum = happy kids. If you fiance is going to continue disrespecting you in these ways then can you be happy? If I was you I would let your fiance that you know about the affairs and then tell him he is going to have to go to councelling and make some changes if you are going to stay together?

I think the big question is even if he never does it again and completely changes can you ever be truly happy with him and trust him?