The other ladies have offered some great advice about getting into some sort of parenting program where not only can you get great ideas on how to effectively manage and discipline but also meet other parents who have young children too. Children copy what they see modelled and to quote DR PHIL lol...they learn most and copy most from their same sex parent. Children dont understand the use of swear words but they certainly understand the passion in which they are said...ie 'Oh ****'..the emphasis is fairly clear..so its natural to pick up words that are said with such emotion and passion. Alot has been going on in this little boys life..and i know the other two kids are younger but little Xander is only 3..just a little tike! A baby is a HUGE adjustment as are other things that might be going on...I hope you can find a course that will help with this.

Jo