Hi Simone,
How are you going with this now? I knew you were struggling with giving the 3 kids a fair share of your time, but I had no idea it was like this, I'm so sorry!
I did hear him swearing when we met up, but it sounded like something that you had a strategy for, so I pretended (cos I was standing right nearby) that I hadn't heard it - was there anything I could have done instead?
I don't know about the background that someone else referred to, but I get the impression that you are a bit amazing
I have heard of something that *may* work for Xander, though you'd need to do a bit of legwork to find someone who could do it on your budget. It's a bit 'alternative', so if you are still interested, I have a book you could borrow to get an insight before proceeding, or you could email me and I'll send you some links.